There’s a heavy silence that blankets our home this morning. If an outsider were to glance through our windows, they’d see nothing more than a typical, dimly lit, orderly house. Despite the half-full sink, a toy basket tucked beneath the console table, and throw pillows scattered haphazardly, the atmosphere remains eerily calm, as expected at 5 a.m.
But I’m wide awake, and it’s the unnerving quiet that keeps me from finding rest. This isn’t the peaceful stillness that precedes a snowstorm; rather, it’s the oppressive silence that follows a disaster, like the calm after a tsunami recedes, leaving behind wreckage and despair.
How do we navigate this morning after? The morning after harsh words were exchanged. The morning after I laid bare my criticisms or you unleashed your own. The morning after I uttered the words “I don’t love you” and requested a divorce.
I should clarify that a part of me will always cherish you—the father of our daughter, Lily; the boy I first loved; the same kid I playfully asked to save a dance for “the witch” at a Halloween party. I still reminisce about those secret kisses shared outside my childhood home, the handwritten notes you slid to me in class, each beginning with “How are you?” or “How was your day?” Those innocent questions seem so simple yet are now lost to us. And this is the challenge of falling in love at a young age: the boy matures into a man, the girl into a woman, and I’m left questioning whether I’m in love with you or merely the memory of who you once were.
So here we are, grappling with small talk on this morning after. We move around each other in a clumsy dance of evasion—avoiding eye contact while brushing our teeth and skirting around each other in the bedroom as we slip into wrinkled clothes. We don’t dare to touch. In moments like this, I sense you hesitate to embrace me just as you did nearly two decades ago. The only exception is when you leave for work. You hug and kiss our daughter first, then me. But the embrace is devoid of warmth—one-armed, hurried, and perfunctory, like a peck you’d give to a mere acquaintance.
Throughout the day, we exchange texts about mundane topics—work, the weather, or Lily’s antics—but the depth is missing. We both know this and sidestep it. We cling to the hope that silence and distance might somehow heal our wounds, that avoidance will keep us together.
We’ve become two lost souls, dancers out of sync. As days slip by, we gradually find our rhythm again, one step at a time. Conversations grow easier, the tension eases, and meals become less strained. Yet, the scars remain, and I can’t shake the doubt: is there a path back from this brink? Can we truly restore what’s been broken?
Then, you offer to make dinner: grilled cheese and split pea soup. It may seem a simple meal, but I eagerly accept. After bathing Lily and tucking her in, I watch you prepare our sandwiches. The scent of burnt toast wafts through the air, a sign of your struggle, but you don’t invite my help. In that moment, I see you clearly—for the boy who once crafted a heart-shaped “steak loaf” for our second Valentine’s Day and the man who stood by me in my darkest times.
I often claim you don’t love me and seek reassurance, yet as I observe you cooking one of our old favorites, I realize the proof I’ve longed for was there all along. While some may merely notice charred bread, I see a glimmer of hope. I hold onto it tightly, savoring this fleeting yet profound moment.
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