As a trans father and a medical professional, I am committed to advocating against anti-trans legislation to safeguard my family and community. Just before Christmas, my young daughter fell ill with a stomach virus that was circulating at her school. As she lay on my chest, drifting into sleep after hours of discomfort, I realized how profound the simplicity of those moments felt. To her, I was simply Dad, providing comfort and care. To me, she was my everything—a child deserving of love and protection, irrespective of any external circumstances.
This leads me to ponder what legislators who vilify transgender individuals would think of my family. Do they genuinely believe that my daughter shouldn’t experience love and security from me because of my identity? It is heartbreaking to consider that societal attitudes could inflict pain on a child simply because she has a trans parent. The same goes for all parents who hold their trans children in moments of vulnerability. What do we tell them when the prevailing message is that their children are unworthy of safety and care? These are the same children we bring into the world with hope and love, only to see them face rejection and hostility.
The Impact of Legislation on Real Lives
Real lives are impacted by legislation like North Carolina’s House Bill 2 (H.B.2) and the various bills being introduced in state legislatures nationwide. These laws propagate the false narrative that transgender individuals are a threat, suggesting that we arbitrarily choose to identify as a different gender. However, that’s not how identity works. No one chooses to endure the struggles that come with living in a world that often feels hostile. The journey to self-acceptance is often long and filled with pain, as many experience years of denial before embracing their true selves.
When I reflect on my life, I see not only the physical changes I’ve undergone but also the love I share with my family. My scars, remnants of medical procedures that were crucial for my well-being, are part of my story. They are not signs of regret but rather symbols of survival and health, made possible by access to necessary healthcare—a privilege not afforded to many, especially trans individuals of color who face systemic violence and erasure.
Fighting for Our Rights
Through my work as a physician, I strive to give back to the community. I spend my days battling against laws that send the damaging message that transgender individuals are undeserving of legal protection and, worse, that we should not exist. Each day, I encounter arguments that suggest it would be easier if transgender people simply did not exist. Some so-called experts have even claimed that trans identities are merely delusions, a view overwhelmingly rejected by reputable medical organizations like the American Medical Association and the American Psychiatric Association.
It is unconscionable to advance policies that contribute to the suffering of trans youth. Statistics reveal that nearly 40% of transgender individuals contemplate suicide, a reflection of the societal rejection we experience rather than an indication that our existence is harmful. Our rights to healthcare, safety, and basic dignity are under constant threat, creating an environment that can feel unbearable for many of us.
Remembering Lives Lost
Tragically, we have seen lives lost, like that of Alex Parker, a young trans woman who took her life shortly before the New Year. Her parents mourned, expressing, “To be different in a world where difference is often not embraced is a challenge that many of us may never truly understand.” Their love was not enough to shield her from the harsh realities of our society. We must strive to create a world that celebrates diversity and treats every individual with respect.
Choices for the Future
As we move forward, we have choices to make—choices that will shape the world we leave for future generations. If we allow fear of difference to dictate our actions, we risk alienating youth like Alex, who only seek acceptance. I am proud of my identity and devoted to advocating for a safer world for our children, ensuring that they can thrive without fear of rejection.
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Conclusion
In summary, as a trans dad and medical professional, I will continue to fight against anti-trans legislation that threatens my family and community. The love and protection I provide to my daughter are essential, and together, we can strive for a world that embraces diversity and respect.