Sometimes, we tell our children, “You can achieve anything you desire.” While this sentiment is vital for nurturing their aspirations, there’s another lesson we need to instill: “Life can be unpredictable.”
That’s certainly true for me. I never envisioned myself as a mother. From an early age, the idea of having children didn’t excite me. I never daydreamed about diaper changes or sleepless nights. The thought of nurturing another human being for a lifetime seemed daunting, and frankly, unappealing.
Then came the unexpected twist. Despite being on birth control, I found myself pregnant. Talk about a plot twist! My world flipped upside down. After my daughter was born, my husband and I were exploring new contraceptive options when, lo and behold, I was pregnant again—this time with my son. They are just 355 days apart in age. Life truly is unpredictable.
Yet, something remarkable happened once I became a mother. As I transitioned from carrying my children to nurturing them as little individuals, I realized I was actually a pretty good mom. It wasn’t due to any innate maternal instincts; rather, it stemmed from my determination to show up every day and put in my best effort. Sure, there are days when I falter, but that doesn’t define my worth as a mother. If you’re striving to be present, caring, and dedicated to your children, then you are doing a great job.
We’ve all encountered parents who struggle, and we often see examples of poor parenting in the media. It’s not an easy task to be a devoted mom, and it’s a choice we actively make. I could have easily succumbed to the idea of being a subpar parent, given that motherhood was never on my agenda. I could have thought, “The universe dealt me a tough hand, so I’ll just coast through this.” But that’s not the path I chose.
Many of us face challenges, whether from unexpected pregnancies, difficult childhoods, or toxic relationships. Yet, we have the power to seek help. Resources such as therapy, parenting workshops, and supportive friends are invaluable in navigating the complexities of raising children. Just because life throws us curveballs doesn’t mean we must fail in our parenting journey.
When my daughter and son came into my life, I made a conscious decision to be the best mother I could be, regardless of my initial reluctance. I taught them to walk and talk, comforted them during sickness, and celebrated their achievements. I give them countless hugs and strive to remain patient when my stress levels rise. I’m actively involved in their learning, providing them with a safe environment and nutritious meals, even if it sometimes ends up on the floor.
I engage with my children, listen to their stories, and encourage them to treat others with kindness and respect. I am proud to be raising two wonderful individuals, even though this wasn’t part of my original plan. Through persistence and seeking guidance, I came to realize that I am indeed fulfilling the role of a mom—an exceptional one at that. I cherish this unexpected journey.
While it’s true that life can throw us unexpected situations, we have the power to decide how we respond. We can either dwell on our hardships or, as they say, bloom where we’re planted. We can make the best of our circumstances, finding joy in the process.
I want my children to dream big and know that their potential is limitless. Equally important is teaching them that life doesn’t always go as planned. In those moments, we have to choose between giving up or rolling up our sleeves and making the most of what we have. It’s during those unpredictable times that we discover our resilience and learn the true essence of motherhood.
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In summary, becoming a mother was never part of my plan, but I embraced the role with love and determination. Life’s unpredictability can lead to beautiful outcomes, and through perseverance, I’ve come to appreciate this unexpected journey of motherhood.