Picture this: my 11-year-old daughter and I sitting in her elementary school lunchroom, clad in our pajamas, as the delightful aroma of freshly delivered pizza filled the air. We were surrounded by about 30 excited fifth-grade girls and their equally anxious parents. The event was aptly named “Girls Night Out,” designed to provide insights into the journey of growing up, including the changes that accompany it.
If you’re a parent, you probably know what “the talk” refers to—an unavoidable conversation that signifies your child is no longer a baby and that the teenage years are just around the corner. So, why was I, a dad, participating in this event, surrounded solely by mothers and daughters? Simply put, my daughter asked me to be there. Her trust in me to navigate an awkward situation was a bond I wanted to strengthen, as this trust will help our communication remain open as she matures.
As the lunchroom filled up, I could sense the curious glances directed at me. In different circumstances, I might have felt out of place, but not that night. I was there for my daughter.
After a painfully awkward icebreaker that involved questions about the female menstrual cycle, we watched an outdated video from the 1980s. It awkwardly discussed the changes in a young girl’s body—breasts, pimples, and more. The room erupted with nervous giggles, a clear sign of the tension in the air.
Once the video ended, the girls were given a chance to ask questions. Some bravely spoke up, while others chose to submit their queries anonymously. Their questions were sincere and full of curiosity about their impending changes, showcasing remarkable courage for their age.
However, the adults’ reactions were a different story. Many were blushing and whispering, while some looked like they wished they were anywhere else but in that lunchroom discussing puberty. That’s when I decided to speak up for my daughter’s sake.
I pointed out that if I treated topics like menstruation as taboo, why would my daughter feel comfortable discussing them with me? I wanted her to know that everything she was experiencing was completely normal. So, I talked openly about periods, estimating how much blood might be lost during one and explaining that a typical cycle lasts about 28 days. I reassured her that it was okay to feel irritable before her period and that no matter when it came—tomorrow or years from now—she would still be perfectly normal.
I even went a step further, assuring her that I would always be available to buy her tampons or pads, reinforcing that any boy worth her time would respect her and not shy away from being with a girl who has a functioning uterus.
It’s time for fathers to engage more actively in educating their daughters to embrace every facet of who they are. We need to stop treating menstruation and puberty like taboo subjects. It’s essential for us to help our daughters feel valued, not ashamed—because they truly are a vital part of our lives.
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