Want to know how to get your children to share more about their day? Consider sharing details about your own first.
While kids can elaborate for ages about their favorite video game or the best pizza spot, asking them, “How was school?” often leads to a frustrating silence. It’s a common scenario—parents eager for insights about their child’s day can feel like they’re interrogating a suspect. Dr. Emily Larson faced this challenge with her reserved son, who would offer nothing more than a shrug when asked about his day at school.
After trying various strategies to entice him into conversation, like giving him space or asking open-ended questions, she stumbled upon a novel solution. In a recent article for a parenting blog, Dr. Larson revealed her secret: instead of asking her son about his day, she started talking about her own experiences as a doctor.
By sharing stories from her day, including even the mundane moments like a long meeting or a challenging patient, she created a relaxed atmosphere for conversation. “I think my son is intrigued by the mystery of my job,” she explains. “It’s not just about the specifics of my work; it’s about sharing the highs and lows, the funny moments, and even the boring ones.”
This approach transforms the typical post-school interrogation into a two-way dialogue. Kids are more likely to engage when they feel like they’re part of a conversation rather than the focus of questioning. Plus, it helps them understand that parents have lives beyond just being caregivers.
So next time your child clams up at the classic “How was school?” question, don’t fret. Simply share a bit about your day, and watch them open up in return.
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In summary, engaging your kids in meaningful conversations can be as simple as sharing your own experiences. By demonstrating openness about your day, you’re likely to encourage them to reciprocate and share their own stories.