As a pediatrician and a parent, I’ve witnessed many phases of childhood eating habits, and let me tell you, the “refusal to eat” stage can be quite the challenge. My youngest, a delightful little rascal named Max, has recently entered this phase, and it’s driving me up the wall.
Let’s take a look at Max’s mealtime antics lately, which I say with a smile while internally groaning.
Breakfast:
Each morning starts with Max waking me at the crack of dawn, claiming he’s “starving.” I stumble out of bed and offer a variety of options — cereal, pancakes, or eggs. But nope, he’s only interested in “snack” foods. We finally compromise on a few pretzels, of which he eats precisely two.
Lunch:
After preschool, the hunger declarations continue. Today, he insists on chicken nuggets, but when I serve them, he cries because they’re not “dino-shaped.” He then rolls on the floor, declaring all food “yuck,” only to eventually devour the leftover pasta from my plate because, in his words, “Mommy’s food is the best.”
Dinner:
After the lunchtime drama, I decide to take charge for dinner. I whip up his favorite spaghetti and meatballs. He eats half but rejects the vegetables, claiming they’re “slimy” or “mushy.” It’s a daily saga of negotiations that leaves me exhausted.
As a physician, I understand the importance of allowing kids to listen to their hunger cues. Ignoring these can lead to unhealthy eating habits as they grow older, which is particularly concerning in our world where obesity rates are climbing. However, when I allow Max to dictate his meals to the extreme, I fear he’ll survive solely on cookies and chips. Structure is key at mealtimes.
Despite my best intentions, some days (or weeks) will see him eat only a fraction of what he needs, leaving me perplexed about how he’s not malnourished.
By evening, after a day of eating almost nothing, he’s genuinely hungry. I find myself allowing him snacks that could pass for a meal — chicken nuggets, tortillas, or even apple slices moments before bed. I remind myself this is just a phase, and I try to go with the flow, but the real struggle begins after bedtime.
Just when I think he’s settled in for the night, I hear the dreaded phrase, “I’m starving to death!” At this point, I’ve reached my limit.
With my first child, I made the mistake of giving in to those late-night hunger cries, thinking it was best to ensure he got enough calories. But with Max, I’m drawing a line in the sand.
Here’s the new rule:
The kitchen closes at 8 p.m. No exceptions.
All the snacks are tucked away, and it’s time for sleep. I remind him that skipping meals during the day doesn’t mean he gets to eat all night. If he goes to bed hungry, it’s not the end of the world. After all, he might just surprise me by eating a proper breakfast the next morning.
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In summary, every child goes through phases, especially when it comes to food. Maintaining consistency and setting boundaries will help guide them toward healthier habits while allowing them to learn about their hunger cues.