Imagine this scenario: It’s early morning, and you’re lined up at the start of your first half marathon. After months of training and preparation, the day has finally arrived. You receive your bib from the friendly volunteers and stretch, your heart racing with anticipation. You’re nervous but determined to cross that finish line.
As the race begins, you reflect on how far you’ve come. Once, you spent your evenings on the couch, engrossed in your favorite shows, but today you’re running! Sure, your pace might resemble a brisk walk more than a sprint, but that’s not the point. Completing this race is about setting a goal and seeing it through. And guess what? You’re almost there!
Crossing the finish line, you’re filled with exhaustion and jubilation, yet your excitement quickly turns to confusion. Where’s the recognition? You look around for a volunteer handing out medals or ribbons but only see a woman in a bright t-shirt offering a few encouraging words. Is that it? After all the effort you put in, a simple pat on the back feels inadequate. It’s frustrating; you feel like your hard work deserves more than just a casual acknowledgment.
But let’s be honest—this feeling isn’t exclusive to running. We adults have our own ways of celebrating participation, albeit under different names. We don’t call them “participation trophies,” but we indulge in our own rewards: a glass of wine, a binge session on Netflix, or even a shopping spree. It’s just that our “trophies” often come with a more adult twist.
In fact, one of the biggest rewards we give ourselves could be considered the most personal—intimacy. That’s right, sex is essentially the ultimate participation trophy in adulthood. I often laugh at the irony while I enjoy my own little victories, even if they come with a side of defeat.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m fiercely competitive, but I also believe in kindness, especially toward children. Years ago, I volunteered to mentor a group of young girls. While some were hesitant to participate, each girl found her own way to contribute. At our end-of-year awards, every girl received a personalized certificate of participation along with a small token. It was essential for them to feel seen and valued.
Walking through life alone can be disheartening. Everyone needs acknowledgment, and that’s especially true for children. Celebrating their efforts doesn’t mean they won’t encounter setbacks or lessons in resilience later on. They will face challenges; that’s a part of growing up. But while they are still young, let’s shower them with support and encouragement.
After all, life will inevitably throw its challenges their way. Until adults relinquish their own “trophies,” I’ll be here to ensure every child gets a medal for their efforts. Because for every kid out there striving, I see you. The cynics can keep their harsh opinions; let’s create an environment where participation is celebrated.
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Summary
This article discusses the importance of acknowledging children’s participation in activities, advocating for a supportive environment rather than one that only rewards winning. It draws parallels between adult self-rewards and children’s participation trophies, emphasizing the need for positive reinforcement in childhood.