As a doctor, I often find myself contemplating the way we perceive others, particularly those who may look different from what we expect. I frequently hear the words, “Look at her!” directed at my daughter, Lily, as we navigate public spaces like parks, museums, or grocery stores. These words come from children, teenagers, and even adults, often accompanied by curious stares.
Lily, my spirited 4-year-old, was born with a rare skin condition. Her skin struggles to retain its integrity, leaving it prone to infections, sensitive to temperature, and presenting an appearance reminiscent of a severe sunburn. But instead of focusing solely on her differences, I encourage you to look deeper.
Look Beyond the Surface
Look at her radiant smile, one that lights up the room and spreads joy to those around her. Observe her bright blue eyes, reminiscent of the clear ocean, sparkling with life and mischief. These eyes widen with apprehension at the mention of doctor visits, a reminder of her medical journey.
Watch as she dances to her favorite songs, effortlessly twirling and shaking along to the beat. Look at her determination as she tackles new challenges, like climbing the playground steps for the first time, her pride palpable as she achieves what many of her peers accomplished years ago.
Listen to her heartfelt questions, like when she inquires about a sad child across the room. Her empathy shines through, shaped by her own experiences with health struggles and hospital stays. Wherever she goes—be it the playground, library, or store—her excitement is contagious.
Embracing Curiosity and Resilience
Pay attention to her curiosity when others comment on her condition. Lily often seeks understanding, asking why someone might be unkind or why she looks different. Her resilience each day, often disguised as typical 4-year-old stubbornness, offers her parents hope that she will stand strong and confident as she matures.
It’s easy to focus on her peeling skin or the lotion that highlights her condition. But I hope you realize there is so much more to Lily than meets the eye. We are all complex beings with rich stories, and I invite you to look beyond initial appearances. So, the next time you encounter someone who seems different, remember to take a moment to see the person behind the surface.
Further Reading
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In summary, let’s strive to see beyond outward differences and recognize the unique qualities and stories that each person possesses.