As a medical professional, I once believed that spanking could be an acceptable form of discipline. However, everything changed with the arrival of my first child.
In my childhood, I experienced spanking as a form of discipline, though it was infrequent. My father would only administer it between the ages of four and ten, and there was always a clear explanation beforehand—never a reaction out of anger. The intention was never to humiliate; I was only struck on the buttocks, and it was a measured response meant to correct behavior without causing lasting harm.
Our Parenting Discussions
Before my wife, Megan, and I welcomed our first child, we had countless discussions about discipline strategies. Both of us had similar backgrounds and had agreed to introduce the same methods we experienced. We believed that, at times, it was the only way to capture a child’s attention effectively.
However, within moments of our son’s birth, Megan looked at me earnestly and declared, “You’re not going to lay a hand on him.” The rush of hormones post-birth influenced her, but her conviction was clear.
Choosing a Spanking-Free Approach
And so, we committed to a spanking-free approach. This choice demanded more creativity and engagement in our parenting, which I now view as a beneficial challenge. After raising five children—though the journey isn’t complete with all of them—I can’t say I haven’t felt the allure of physical discipline. Yet, we’ve adhered to our principles. Research supports our decision, confirming that avoiding physical punishment leads to better outcomes.
Advice for Parents
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Conclusion
In summary, while I once thought spanking was an effective discipline tool, my perspective shifted dramatically after becoming a parent. The choice to embrace non-violent discipline has fostered a healthier environment for my children, and I encourage other parents to consider the long-term benefits of such an approach.