If you’ve ever experienced childhood or stepped into parenthood, you’ve likely come across the adage: honesty is the best policy. Yet, when interacting with fellow moms and their little ones, that principle can often take a backseat. We’re not talking about blatant deceit—when it comes to significant matters, we’re truthful. However, to protect feelings or perhaps our own pride, we sometimes bend the truth a little.
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Your Child Was Well-Behaved.
When exchanging your child after a playdate, the first question is usually about their behavior. If your little one decided to do something wild like launching a toy through a window, I’d certainly let you know. But if the mischief was minor, I’d likely say they were “wonderful.” Even if they misbehaved slightly, I understand that children have off days, and I wouldn’t want to make you feel inadequate as a parent. -
Your Child is Adorable.
Every parent thinks their child is a treasure, but asking others to share that sentiment puts them in a tough spot. When you ask, “Isn’t she just the cutest?” I’ll respond with enthusiasm, even if I privately think she resembles your uncle Larry with his unkempt beard. Luckily, cuteness can extend beyond physical features, so I can still agree without outright lying. -
Your Child is Typical.
Every mom has her moments of worry regarding her child’s development. Most of the time, these concerns are unfounded, as children develop at different rates. So when you express anxiety over milestones like walking or talking, I’ll assure you that everything is perfectly fine and your child is absolutely on track. Am I a pediatrician? No, but I don’t want to add to your worries. I’ll gently suggest checking in with a professional, but I’ll follow it up with, “I’m sure it’s nothing major.” -
Apologies for the Clutter.
Before your visit, I likely spent a frantic 20 minutes tidying up stray toys and dishes to make my home look inviting. If I apologize for the mess, it might lead you to think my place is usually spotless. -
Don’t Worry About Tidying Up.
My least favorite part of a playdate is the chaotic aftermath of toys and crumbs. Yet, every time I find myself saying, “Oh, don’t worry about cleaning up; we’ll manage.” Truthfully, I’d love a helping hand, but I know it can be tough to corral kids into cleaning. I want you to feel comfortable, even if I secretly wish for a little assistance. -
Sorry, We Can’t Join Because…
My child is sick? I have a prior engagement? In reality, I’m avoiding the playdate for various reasons, whether I’m not in the mood to get dressed or my child is being particularly challenging. I concoct an excuse that sounds more plausible so you don’t feel slighted—and I don’t feel petty for declining. -
My Child is Doing Those Things Too!
Comparing kids is futile yet tempting. So when you mention that your child is already mastering skills like potty training, I can’t resist trying to keep up. When I say my child is also “using the toilet,” it might mean he had a brief encounter with the potty chair. But who needs to know those details? -
You Look Fantastic!
When you stumble into my home looking like you’ve just survived a zombie apocalypse—complete with dark circles and questionable stains—your immediate apology about your appearance won’t elicit my agreement. I’ll reassure you that you look great because the last thing you need is to feel worse about it. We’ve all been there!
While telling these little white lies might seem trivial, they stem from a place of understanding and empathy. It’s all about nurturing each other’s self-esteem in this wild journey of motherhood. For more information on home insemination resources, check out this link. For an authoritative guide on home insemination kits, visit Make a Mom. Additionally, Hopkins Medicine is an excellent resource for pregnancy and home insemination.
In summary, while moms may indulge in harmless exaggerations or fibs, these gestures come from a place of goodwill, aiming to uplift one another in our parenting journeys.