My 4-year-old, Lily, is convinced she possesses all the wisdom in the world. From her unique pronunciation of “purple” as “purtle” to her opinions about when the sun is allowed to set, she often leaves me scratching my head. Just the other day, as we prepared for a neighborhood gathering, she exclaimed, “Why aren’t you wearing your fancy black dress? You should look special!”
I responded, “It’s a sweltering 90 degrees outside, and that ‘fancy thing’ you’re referring to is a wool shawl. I’m sorry if I’m not meeting your royal expectations, my little fashionista.” I may have even offered a slight bow.
Children at this age often believe they’ve been around forever, which gives them a sense of authority that is both amusing and challenging. With her stubbornness, I find myself embroiled in humorous yet ridiculous debates daily. However, I’ve learned a few strategies that might help you as well when engaging with an opinionated 4-year-old.
“Hey there, Lily! I understand that you want to dress however you desire, but that outfit probably isn’t the best choice,” I might say as she proudly showcases her ensemble of leg warmers and winter boots.
“Yes, I get it—you feel like a princess. And I appreciate your creativity. But remember, it’s summer, and those are leg warmers and snow boots.”
“They do cover your legs, true, but it’s sweltering out there,” I continue. “It’s as hot as lava!”
“Oh! I remember when we played ‘don’t touch the hot lava’ with pillows in the living room! That was so much fun!” she responds with excitement.
“Yes, it was! And we can do that again soon, but right now, we’ll be late if we play that game. The real issue is that your dress has transformed into more of a shirt since you’ve grown taller.”
“I’m covered!” she insists. “It’s totally a dress!”
“No, it’s not. Oh goodness, it’s simply not a dress! If you want to wear that shirt, you need shorts underneath—no exceptions,” I reply, trying to maintain my composure.
“I look like a superhero princess!” she declares, her eyes sparkling with imagination.
“Well, you’ll be a superhero princess of fire if you walk outside in that get-up; you might just roast!” I chuckle, regretting it when I see her frown.
“Okay, I won’t laugh again. Just please put on some shorts and find some shoes,” I plead, feeling my patience waning.
“Yes, shoes are necessary. Not at the beach, but we aren’t going there today. We’re going to a party!”
“Fine! We’ll go to the beach next Christmas! Just find those shorts and shoes, please!” I exclaim, my voice raising in frustration.
By the end of the day, I think she actually wore the shorts, but I can’t quite remember. It’s possible we may have skipped the party altogether. The reality is, perhaps we both should just wear what we want—as long as we’re covered.
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Summary
Engaging with a stubborn 4-year-old can lead to humorous yet challenging situations. By using patience and understanding, parents can navigate these conversations more effectively.