As a parent, the journey begins with great excitement as you look forward to all the firsts that your child will experience. You eagerly await the moment they roll over for the first time, the first taste of rice cereal, the first full night of sleep, and those adorable first steps. These milestones are celebrated with enthusiasm, often shared on social media as proud parents document the journey of growth. Baby books become filled with dates marking each significant first, and every achievement is celebrated as a step toward a wonderful childhood.
However, in the midst of this joyful anticipation, it’s easy to overlook the lasts. Do you recall the moments when your child completed a phase of their early life? Those fleeting instances of the last time they did something special can often be forgotten amid the excitement of new experiences. My father frequently reminded me that while firsts are memorable, it’s the lasts that can slip silently away.
As my children transition into their teenage years, I find myself reflecting on the many behaviors they’ve outgrown. It’s a bittersweet realization that so many cherished moments have quietly faded without me fully recognizing their significance. When was the last time I tiptoed into a darkened room to find them peacefully asleep, a binky still nestled in their mouth? Or when did I last see them don footed pajamas, worn inside out and backward, without a care in the world?
I often ponder the last time I heard the soft patter of their tiny feet across the floor or the moment I finished my grocery list without the familiar items of butt paste, diapers, and baby wash. There was a last bubble bath filled with laughter and splashes, a last moment when their small body melted into my arms, surrendering to sleep after a long day.
When did I stop seeing their little face in the rearview mirror, strapped into a car seat, ready for the next adventure? It’s a poignant reminder that with every first, there is a last, and often, we remain unaware of these transitions until they have passed.
The last time they referred to me as “Mommy” instead of just “Mom” still lingers in my mind. Those tender names were music to my ears, and it pains me to think I might not remember the exact moment they transitioned to a more grown-up title. While I know they will always need me, the echoes of their childhood names hold a special place in my heart.
Yet, looking forward, there are still many firsts on the horizon: first dates, driver’s permits, and the bittersweet first nights away at college. I’ll cherish those milestones too, capturing them in photographs and sharing my emotions online as they move into the next phase of life. But this time, I am committed to being present for the lasts, to savor those moments before they fade into memory.
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In summary, while firsts are filled with joy and anticipation, it’s crucial to equally cherish the lasts, as they mark the passage of time and the ever-changing dynamics of parenthood.