As a physician, I often find myself reflecting on the profound impact of motherhood—not only on my patients but also on myself. Recently, I spoke with my eldest child, who is just four years old, about the exciting arrival of our third baby. It’s crucial for me to help him navigate this transition smoothly. We’ve been discussing how life will shift, the needs of the new baby, and how he can play a vital role as the big brother.
Just yesterday, he asked to feel the baby kicking inside my belly. As he placed his tiny hand on my bump, he earnestly explained to his unborn sibling that they would cry and sleep a lot and that it would be our responsibility to teach them everything. I couldn’t help but smile, pleased that he was absorbing our discussions.
Then, out of the blue, he posed a question that caught me off guard. “Mommy, did things change for you after I came out of your tummy?”
I hesitated, pondering how to convey the depth of my experience in a way he could understand. How could I explain that my life took a dramatic turn when I became a mother? In that instant, as he entered the world, I felt an overwhelming rush of love and responsibility.
I wanted to share the raw emotions of those first moments after delivery when he struggled to breathe and medical professionals rushed to assist him. It felt like an eternity, and fear gripped me like never before. When I finally heard his first cries, they were the sweetest sounds I’d ever known, washing over me in waves of relief and gratitude.
Motherhood comes with its own set of challenges—fears of inadequacy, anxieties about feeding and sleeping habits, and the overwhelming urge to protect this fragile being. I often found myself checking in on him while he slept, ensuring his chest rose and fell, and I felt an unshakeable sense of unworthiness for having received such a precious gift.
My priorities shifted dramatically. One of my closest friends commented that my heart had indeed changed, and it resonated deeply with me. Suddenly, the messy house and career ambitions took a backseat to the joy of spending time with my child.
The sleepless nights were replaced by quiet moments of joy as I would check on him, often creeping into his room just to be near him. I became all too familiar with the anxiety of waiting for him to return from outings with his father, my mind racing with worries of what could go wrong.
I never anticipated having more children. Initially, we were content with just him, but as our love grew, we decided a sibling would enrich his life. I worried about whether I could love another child as fiercely as I loved him, and when his brother finally arrived, it was as if my heart expanded to accommodate both of them, filling with even greater love.
Watching my boys play together fills me with joy and pride. Their bond is evident, and I often find myself eavesdropping on their imaginative conversations. The way they support each other, like when my eldest tells his brother that “family always sticks together,” fills my heart with warmth.
Ultimately, I want him to know that my friend was correct; motherhood transformed me in ways I never could have imagined. I will never be the same person again. My heart now holds a deeper capacity for love, and he will always carry a piece of it with him. He was the catalyst for this beautiful journey.
As I reflected on these thoughts, my son looked up at me expectantly, asking again, “Mommy, are you listening to my words? Did things change when I came out of your tummy?” I smiled down at him and squeezed him tightly. “They sure did, buddy. Everything changed.”
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In summary, motherhood has redefined my priorities and reshaped my heart in ways I never imagined. It’s a journey filled with love, fear, and profound joy, changing not just my life but the lives of those around me.