Updated: April 12, 2023
When my children were quite young—9, 7, and 6 years old—I found myself in a challenging situation while experiencing intense PMS. We were in the car for an hour, and I recognized that my patience was wearing thin. After a series of emotional ups and downs, I decided it was time to have a candid conversation with them about what PMS really means for many women.
During our drive to pick up a family member for lunch, I took a deep breath and explained how PMS can affect mood and behavior. I shared how it can lead to feelings of irritability, sadness, or even hunger pangs. To my surprise, they listened attentively, and I felt like a great parent for addressing it head-on.
However, as we sat down for lunch, my youngest son, Timmy, began to misbehave. After several gentle reminders, he loudly proclaimed, “You’re just mad because you have your period!” Suddenly, the atmosphere shifted; it felt like the room froze. Everyone in the restaurant turned to stare, and I could feel my cheeks flush with embarrassment.
Needless to say, I had to excuse myself. When PMS hits, it can turn a simple meal into a dramatic moment, and it made me realize the importance of educating my sons on this topic. Here are four key lessons I want them to understand about PMS:
1. PMS is a Real Experience
Menstrual symptoms are genuine and can significantly impact a woman’s emotional and physical state. While I strive to manage my mood, sometimes it’s unavoidable. If your father came home and acted like a superhero with a sugar rush, I’d want you to express your concerns—but do it away from me, ideally at least five miles distant.
2. Approach with Sensitivity
If my mood swings affect you, I encourage you to bring it up gently. This isn’t a topic to shout about in public, like from a rooftop or a crowded restaurant. Treat it with the care it deserves. You may want to learn more about women’s health issues, as you might one day have a partner or daughter to consider. Calmly share your feelings, and maybe even leave a snack as a peace offering, like a bag of chips. Remember, terms like “on the rag” or “bitch week” are absolutely unacceptable.
3. A Little Care Goes a Long Way
Just as I take care of you when you’re unwell, a little pampering during my PMS days would be appreciated. A small gesture, like bringing me chocolate or offering a foot rub, can go a long way. It’s not about making a fuss; it’s about showing kindness during a tough time.
4. Don’t Be Insensitive
Above all, the most important lesson is to avoid being dismissive or disrespectful about PMS. Whether you feel inclined to help or not is your choice, but always approach the subject with understanding. Remember that the struggles I face each month are part of a larger picture of life.
I know it may seem unfair to deal with moodiness and cravings regularly, but think about the challenges women face. After all, the experience of childbirth is something that transcends simple fairness.
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Summary
Talking openly about PMS can help young boys understand the emotional and physical challenges women face. By fostering sensitivity, encouraging care, and promoting respectful communication, we can bridge the gap between understanding and empathy.