“Are you a stay-at-home mom?” my curious 11-year-old niece, Lily, asked as we drove home from a delightful birthday celebration for my daughter. I was taken aback by her inquiry and responded with a hint of skepticism, “Why do you ask? Yes, I am.”
“Wow, that must be nice,” she said, her voice tinged with a longing that made me reflect on her perception of motherhood.
Next to me was Sarah, my sister-in-law, who was behind the wheel. After an enjoyable day filled with laughter and five boisterous children in the backseat, her response to Lily’s idealization was quick: “Well, it’s not always easy.” I appreciated her support, recognizing the effort I put into my role over the past nine years, but part of me wanted to turn to Lily and exclaim, “Yes! It truly is amazing!” With two of my kids now in full-time school and my youngest in preschool, I cherish the five precious hours of alone time I have each week. Sure, I might use that time for meal planning or folding laundry, but it’s still mine!
Beyond the joys of motherhood, I find other perks in my day-to-day life. I enjoy uninterrupted sleep, showers at my leisure, time to practice music, read, write, and even catch a movie before school pick-up. I also attempt to cook new meals, even if my kids often turn their noses up at them. This is the adult life I had always envisioned.
As I navigate the challenges of sleepless nights and toddler tantrums, I’ve started to see a light at the end of the tunnel. Yet, I hesitate to openly express my contentment, worried that Sarah might judge my choices. She has managed to juggle both her career and motherhood, a feat I deeply admire. But the ongoing debate between stay-at-home moms and working moms resonates with me, reminding me of the heated discussions I’ve seen online, where women passionately argue over the “right” way to parent.
I took a moment to explain to Lily that after college, my goal was to become a mother first and then decide on a career once my children were in school. Now that my youngest is approaching kindergarten, I’m beginning to carve out a professional path, one that was inspired by my experiences as a mother. If I hadn’t embraced motherhood first, I might not have discovered what I truly wanted to do.
Reflecting on our car ride together, I realized how similar Sarah and I are. We aren’t in a race; we share the same goals for our children: creating memories, enjoying time together, and supporting one another. We are simply two moms navigating the same journey, striving to get our children where they need to go. If you want to take the kids on Tuesday and I’ll take them on Thursday, I’m all for it!
As I pondered this perspective, I felt a sense of relief. We’re not competing to see who is the better parent; instead, we’re collaborating in this grand carpool of life.
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In summary, motherhood is not a race, but rather a shared journey. Each of us has our own path and story, and we should support one another along the way.