My daughter is nothing short of a force of nature. Not in the traditional sense of the term—she doesn’t crawl on all fours or hiss at strangers—but in her distinct spirit and wild enthusiasm. From the moment she entered this world, I realized I was faced with the incredible, yet daunting, challenge of nurturing a child who defies convention.
Lila was that toddler at the playground who climbed to the highest point of the jungle gym, pausing only for a breath before launching herself into the air, embodying the thrill of adventure in a way that made me think she might just soar into the sky. She swung high on the swings, and I half-expected her to take flight, shouting gleefully, “Weeeee!”
As soon as she mastered crawling, climbing soon followed. Bookshelves, counters, and desks became her playground, forcing me to baby-proof our home to the point where it resembled a fortress. We tethered heavy furniture to the walls, determined to keep our little explorer safe from potential disasters.
Long before she was old enough for a big girl bed, we made the decision to move her out of the crib. Even as an infant, I would find her perched atop the crib bars like a mountain climber at the summit. At just 8 months, she would stand triumphantly in her high chair, as if to declare, “I will not be confined!” Restraints were no match for her, and when I first took her on a bike ride, her deadpan expression seemed to command, “Just go fast.”
From the moment we arrived at any gathering, she would seek out electrical outlets, determined to find something—preferably metallic—to insert within. I found myself contacting Poison Control numerous times during her early years, not due to negligence, but rather her relentless curiosity. I became quite familiar with the operators, even going so far as to print a guide of poisonous plants for our outings, ensuring I was prepared for her adventurous palate.
Lila was notorious for her “experiments” with household items. She once stuffed a piece of a pencil up her nose, attempted to eat a marker, and suffered a broken arm while climbing the monkey bars. Our dog walks often featured a leash for her and one for our Pomeranian, and yes, judgment from other parents was palpable. They didn’t understand that, like a rambunctious puppy, if left to her own devices, she would dash across the street to explore any enticing flower.
Much like Mowgli from The Jungle Book, she gravitated towards nature and danger, finding exhilaration in the unknown. She burst into this world with vigor, and that exuberance never waned.
Her creativity knows no bounds. At her third birthday, while many children would cradle a new doll, Lila and her friends decided to give it a unique twist—dipping the doll in the toilet and rolling it in cat litter. When I walked in, I didn’t need to ask who masterminded this idea; it was unmistakably Lila’s doing. She was the one who encouraged her friends to embrace their wild sides, leading to some friendships being tested along the way.
And just like Mowgli, she has no qualms about being outside without clothes, often choosing to run free in the yard. In the winter, she insists on wearing just her underwear, and if I had a dollar for every time I had to shout, “Lila, put on some clothes! The UPS delivery is here!” I could buy a whole new wardrobe.
Despite her adventurous tendencies, she is also affectionate, funny, and sweet. As she turns 10, I see her developing a bit of caution—perhaps a newfound sense of awareness. While I admire her fearless approach to life, she has certainly given me my fair share of heart-stopping moments. Parents of more subdued children often misunderstand the challenges of parenting a wild child, attributing their calm kids’ demeanor to superior parenting.
I have friends who have experienced the same phenomenon. One recently shared her journey with me, explaining how her well-behaved son made her feel like a parenting superstar, only to be humbled by the arrival of her daughter—a force of nature in her own right. “She’s stubborn and unyielding,” she confessed, “and it doesn’t matter what I do.” There was something comforting in her words; she understood the wild side of parenting.
In moments of candid reflection, she admitted, “Sometimes my son is so boring, I can hardly stand it. At least my daughter keeps life interesting.”
While it’s a challenge, I wouldn’t trade my wild spirit for anything. Yes, she tests my patience and often catches me off guard, but she has also reminded me that life should be approached with the idea that we can soar rather than fear the fall. I cherish the spitfires, the wild ones, the adventurous hearts—they bring excitement and authenticity to our lives.
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