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Why I Can’t Stand Spoiled Kids (Including My Own)
by Emma Lane
Updated: Oct. 4, 2023
Originally Published: July 18, 2015
My daughters, ages 5 and 7, are the lights of my life, but let’s be real—they’re a bit spoiled, and it drives me up the wall. Before you start throwing shade my way, let me clarify: I own this. I take full responsibility for their entitled behavior.
The truth is, as parents, we often find ourselves in a pickle. By the time we realize we’ve made mistakes, our kids have already developed some pretty obnoxious habits, making it tough to reverse the damage. But I’m on a mission to change things around. I emphasize good manners, we have discussions about gratitude, and I seize those teachable moments whenever I can. They’re starting to get it, but it’s definitely a work in progress. And having to compete with other spoiled kids doesn’t make my job any easier.
Kids Who Expect to Be Pampered
It all begins when they’re infants and we cater to their every whim. But here’s the kicker: they grow up and can actually help out! Even toddlers can pitch in.
“Mom! Can I get some water?” Oh, heck no! Use those handy little things at the end of your arms. They’re called hands, and they do wonders!
“I want a snack.” Great info, kiddo! Last time I checked, you’re perfectly capable of heading to the kitchen and getting it yourself. Remember those hands? And just a heads up—kids who don’t use manners get zero assistance from me.
Dinner time? One meal is all they get. If they’re hungry, they can lend a hand in the kitchen. Want to eat? Then you can help prepare it!
Kids Who Refuse to Pitch In
I may be sounding like a grouchy parent here, but I refuse to spend the next decade cleaning up after my little tornadoes. Toys, clothes, glitter—it’s chaos!
Sure, it’s easier to clean up myself to avoid the whining, but I’m committed to making them accountable, responsible, and thankful. If it means I have to endure some grumbling while they learn, so be it.
Kids Who Don’t Understand Money
Every trip to Target turns into a plea fest for all sorts of stuff. I used to appease them with a visit to the dollar section, but not anymore. Now, we discuss prices, budgets, and they learn that they can only have what they can afford. They get a small allowance, and we talk about budgeting and spending.
Spoiled kids are easy to spot; they’re always bragging about their latest toys or trends. But it’s not the kids’ fault; it’s the parents who are showering them with excess. Let’s teach our kids the value of money instead of turning them into little consumers.
The Core Issue
The real challenge—and my shortcoming as a parent—is that we often don’t want our kids’ help because it seems to take more effort in the moment. Watching them cook can be messy, and let’s be honest, there’s always a fear of a finger ending up in the salad.
We tend to shy away from delegating tasks because it feels like more work now, but it’ll pay off later. The struggle to get them to contribute is tough, but it’s a crucial parenting hurdle. I’m holding out hope that by the time their birthdays roll around, they’ll be whipping up dinner for me. Meatloaf, please!
My entitled little ones and I are on a journey toward better behavior, tackling each challenge as it comes. Fellow parents, let’s keep pushing for the best; our children will be leaders one day, and good leaders know how to tidy up their own space!
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Summary
In navigating the challenges of parenting, I’ve recognized my own role in raising entitled kids. Through emphasizing accountability, manners, and the value of money, I’m working on transforming my daughters into responsible individuals. Although it’s an uphill battle, I’m committed to taking it one step at a time.