There I was, standing on the sidewalk, when a massive black pickup truck roared toward me, its bumper towering at my waist level. Time seemed to freeze as the vehicle zoomed closer, and despite being just a short distance from safety, I felt rooted to the ground, paralyzed by fear. I tried to scream, but no sound came out; I was a frozen observer of my own possible demise.
As the truck approached, I didn’t experience the typical “life flashing before my eyes” moment. Instead, a whirlwind of chaotic thoughts raced through my mind, and then, in that split second, one singular, crystal-clear regret surfaced: I can’t believe I wasted so many years fretting over my weight.
Fortunately, I didn’t meet my end that day. As the truck barreled toward me, a desperate survival instinct kicked in, and I managed to leap aside just in time. Onlookers rushed to my side, expressing their shock and indignation at the driver’s careless behavior. Yet, while my body was still recovering from the incident, my mind was in a different realm, contemplating a significant realization.
In that moment of potential death, what struck me most was not a longing for my loved ones or regrets about missed opportunities. Instead, it was the realization that I had spent far too much time feeling ashamed of my body—the very vessel that has carried me through life’s adventures.
My body has served me well. Sure, I’ve had my moments of being a bit heavier than I’d like, but generally, I’ve maintained a weight that hovers near the upper end of what is considered “healthy.” I’m sturdy, and I wouldn’t be easily toppled by a strong gust of wind. If I were a woman in prehistoric times, my body would have thrived during hardships, nurturing our community’s children while others faltered.
So why do I allow myself to feel disappointed in a body that carries me up flights of stairs with six bags of groceries? How can I think of myself as inadequate when I can run ten miles on nature trails? If my 47-year-old frame can bounce on a trampoline with my kids, how can I possibly view it as a source of discontent?
This struggle between physical capability and self-worth is a peculiar battle. I’ve had moments in my life that have chipped away at my self-esteem.
- At age 11, I grabbed the newspaper from the front stoop when a boy on a bike shouted, “You’re fat!”
- At 17, during a pivotal moment in my life, I was told, “If you lost weight, you could be attractive.”
- In college, I awkwardly asked a guy I liked out for coffee, only to be met with, “I don’t date big girls.”
- Years later, my sister suggested we shouldn’t have kids due to our genetic legacy.
- In my late twenties, a close friend remarked on my grandmother’s photo, “You didn’t stand a chance with those hips and breasts.”
- And then there was that awkward moment in a hotel room when my mother gasped, “Has your belly always hung over like that?”
- Most memorably, while in Turkey, a hot air balloon crew member asked if I could “get my leg over the basket” before helping me down.
Each of these moments was like a tiny prick to my confidence. Even though I’ve come to realize that their hurtful words often reflect more about them than me, their echoes linger. Society seems to have a say in how I should feel about my body, even though, deep down, I know it’s mine alone. I am strong and fit, yet I still grapple with the feeling that I’m “too much” according to popular standards.
But secretly, I know the truth. I dare to think I’m lovely. My smile radiates warmth, my hair has a bounce, my eyes sparkle, and my arms could easily befriend Michelle Obama’s. My legs? They could crack walnuts!
The challenge has been to prioritize the belief in my own beauty over the nagging worries about my weight. This transformative mindset kicked in when I started to see myself as a stranger in a room full of fit individuals.
During an intense exercise class, as I watched others through the mirrors, I couldn’t find my own reflection. I was searching for the chunky figure I assumed I had, only to realize that I blended right in. In fact, I looked robust compared to some of the leaner participants. In that moment, I embraced the idea that my body is something to celebrate, not regret.
Now, I view myself as a strong, glorious creature. I won’t let societal voices dictate how I see myself anymore. My body—that juicy, energetic beast—is something to be proud of, not ashamed.
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In summary, our bodies deserve respect and appreciation, regardless of societal standards. Embracing our strengths while letting go of negative perceptions can lead to a healthier mindset and a happier life.