In a world where everyone has an opinion, working moms often find themselves the targets of unsolicited advice and comments. Recently, I stumbled upon a humorous yet insightful piece that listed what not to say to stay-at-home moms, and it got me thinking about the things that working moms often hear. It’s surprising how even well-meaning people can express subtle judgment or misunderstanding about a mom’s choice to work outside the home. Here are some comments that might be best left unsaid.
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Isn’t it too expensive to work?
Imagine if I responded with, “Well, how much does your husband make to allow you to stay home?” Awkward, right? Whether I work to contribute financially or because I love my career, this question undermines all my reasons for being in the workforce. My job isn’t just about the paycheck; it’s about setting an example for my kids, maintaining my skills, and ensuring my marriage is based on shared responsibilities. -
I wish I could escape my kids for a day!
If you really want that break, I can help you polish your résumé! But just so you know, working doesn’t equate to freedom. It’s more like a triathlon—waking up early, juggling responsibilities, and then racing home to manage dinner, homework, and bedtime—all while feeling guilty about not being around. -
I couldn’t stand being away from my child all day.
I totally get it. But trust me, you adapt because you have to. We all have our coping mechanisms. -
The issue with our society is that too many moms are working.
Really? If you’re not advocating for better parental leave or flexible work options, then this comment is just a call for a return to traditional roles. It’s disheartening to hear that dual-income families are blamed for societal issues when many families are simply trying to make ends meet. -
Why have kids only to let someone else raise them?
This is a loaded question. I chose to have children because I longed for motherhood. I’m still the one raising my kids, just with a little help from others. It takes a village, right? -
I don’t know how you manage it all.
Honestly, it’s tough! But parenting is challenging no matter if you’re at home or at the office. It can be glorious, chaotic, and rewarding all at once. -
You must be super organized!
Oh, if only you knew! I may appear organized, but I’m really just one lost shoe away from chaos. My life is a beautifully chaotic mess, just like everyone else’s. -
You can always work later; these early years are so special.
Every year is precious, yet this is rarely said to fathers. Let’s give both parents credit for cherishing their time with their kids. -
You look tired.
Thanks! A spa day would be lovely, but sadly, I’ll have to keep the bags under my eyes a little longer. -
At least you cherish every moment with your child.
Well, not every moment! Sometimes, the witching hour is less than magical, and I keep a bottle of wine chilled for those moments. But yes, I value my time with my kids—though I’m sure it would be different if I were home more.
And yes, I often worry about missing out. Yet, when my little one runs to me, calling me the “best mommy ever,” I know it’s all worth it.
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Summary
Working moms face unique challenges and often encounter comments that can be dismissive or judgmental. It’s important to recognize the complexities of balancing work and family life, as well as to support one another in our choices.