Parenting is a whirlwind of choices, and as Sarah Watts pointed out in The New York Times, the sheer volume of advice can leave you feeling overwhelmed. For each dilemma—should I choose breast milk or formula? Is an SAT tutor better than a violin lesson?—there’s a plethora of articles, studies, and books trying to sway your decision. Parents feel the need to adopt labels like “Attachment Parent” or “Tiger Parent,” but honestly, those roles can feel tiresome. Here are seven parenting approaches I’ve happily cast aside since my family grew.
1. Cutesy Bento Box Parenting
With my first child, I went all out on adorable gear. From themed blankets to whimsical snack containers shaped like dolphins from Etsy, I had it all. Fast-forward to kid number two, and I find myself packing my older child’s lunch in a crumpled yogurt container and an old mint tin. It’s all about practicality now!
2. Chic Attire Parenting
Before kids, I enjoyed curating the perfect wardrobe, from stylish jeans to trendy skirts. After my first child, I managed to keep it together, but after the second? Let’s just say I’m teetering on the edge of full-on sweatpants. As my buddy Jenna wisely says, “Don’t go gentle into that boring wardrobe,” so I’ve settled for comfy, loose-fitting pants and tops with a little flair.
3. Zombie Frog Parenting
Remember those biology classes where you could make a dead frog twitch with a pin? That’s how I feel when my toddler wails at odd hours. Instead of leaping out of bed at the first sound, I now give myself a moment to breathe. Most of the time, he settles down on his own—just a little dramatic flair!
4. Mmmmmkkkayy? Parenting
In the earlier days, I was the parent crouching down, earnestly negotiating with my child, “Listen, Timmy, it’s time to go home since Daddy will be here soon, mmmmmkkkayy?” Meanwhile, Timmy, who just learned to walk, could care less and continues his slide adventures. Now, I simply state, “We’re leaving!” and we do. They might scream, but at least I’m not trying to broker a peace treaty!
5. Sip and Stir Parenting
With my first child, a cocktail while cooking was a ritual. But with two kids? I’ve learned that I need my wits about me; otherwise, I risk being tackled by tiny tornadoes while trying to whip up dinner. Now, I save the drinks for after bedtime—it’s much safer that way!
6. Soulful Stares Parenting
Initially, I was all about attachment parenting, maintaining intense eye contact with my baby and tracking their every move. Now, with my second child, I find myself surprised when they wander into the living room. Turns out, they grow up just fine without constant hovering.
7. Cleaning Crusader Parenting
Why is there always a mysterious layer of grime at home? I used to scrub every corner with gloves and disinfectant. Now, I just give the floor a quick pass with a Clorox wipe and call it a day. Honestly, it’s a victory if I’ve just managed to keep the kids fed!
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In summary, parenting styles evolve as your family grows. The transition from first to second child often means letting go of some earlier expectations and embracing a more relaxed approach. It’s all about surviving and enjoying the chaos together!