Updated: Dec. 27, 2015
Originally Published: April 21, 2015
A recent column in the New York Times raised eyebrows by questioning the idea that kids need to discover their “passion.” The writer, Sarah Jennings, pointed out how the college admissions game often pushes parents to become overzealous in their pursuit of their children’s future success. You know the type: the parents who decide that their kid should be the next rock star or soccer prodigy and insist, “You’re going to excel at this,” even if little Timmy would rather play video games.
Ah, the classic pushy parent dilemma. But here’s the twist—while I can agree that some parents go overboard, there are moments when a little nudge can be beneficial.
Let’s be real: you’re probably not getting a sports scholarship, and that’s perfectly fine. Signing your child up for Little League isn’t about molding the next Derek Jeter; it’s about ensuring they get some exercise. Sure, biking and tree climbing are great, but let’s face it—most kids need a little extra motivation. When they join a team, they’re making a commitment, and that helps them get off the couch and into the world.
Want to try scouting or join the marching band? Awesome! I hear the local Key Club is on the lookout for volunteers. Yes, group activities might not be every kid’s favorite thing, but learning to collaborate with others is a valuable skill for life. Think of it as a lifeline, not just a line on a college application.
And let’s not forget about music. Whether it’s the banjo or the ukulele, learning an instrument is like gaining a new form of communication. You don’t need to play at a fancy concert hall or go viral on YouTube, but having the ability to express yourself through music opens doors—cultural ones, at that. Plus, let’s be honest: who doesn’t appreciate a guitar player?
Now, we all know that hard work beats talent when talent chooses to sit back. You might know that one kid in gifted classes who flunks math because she thinks she’s too smart to study. I’m not saying we should expect perfect report cards, but it’s essential for kids to understand what it feels like to put in effort and break a sweat. If they later decide not to work hard, at least they’ll realize that not reaching their potential is a choice.
And here’s the deal: if your kid is in a genuinely dangerous situation or facing abusive mentors, then quitting is totally on the table. But for everything else, let them stick it out. Encourage them to set small, achievable goals with their coach or teacher. My daughter once wanted to quit violin after a few tough practices, but after learning to play a song she had dreaded, she discovered the joy of perseverance—and now she’s happily playing the clarinet.
So, let’s not paint all pushy parents with the same brush. Some of us are simply guiding our kids with a sprinkle of sense and a dash of encouragement.
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Summary:
In the parenting world, being a pushy parent can sometimes be justified. While it’s essential to respect a child’s individuality, encouraging them to engage in various activities can promote their growth and development. A little push can help them learn teamwork, perseverance, and the joys of self-expression, ultimately preparing them for life’s challenges.