Updated: Dec. 20, 2015
Originally Published: April 21, 2015
A fascinating study from researchers at the University of Missouri and the University of Chicago, published in the Journal of Consumer Research, reveals some eye-opening insights about how we reward our children. Good Housekeeping reports that the study surveyed 701 individuals, asking about their childhood experiences and how those shaped their adult lives, particularly regarding the rewards and punishments they encountered during formative years.
The findings might make you rethink your parenting strategies. It turns out that children who receive material gifts as rewards—whether for good behavior or just as a way to show love—tend to grow into adults who are more materialistic, placing a higher value on possessions than on meaningful experiences. Yikes!
Education expert, Alfie Smith, pointed out over two decades ago that extrinsic rewards (that’s fancy talk for rewards that come from outside oneself) generally backfire. Think about it: if you’re only cleaning your room to avoid a lecture or to snag a cookie for memorizing vocabulary, how long does that motivation last? Spoiler alert: not long! Children who are rewarded with treats or toys often abandon the behaviors that earned them those goodies as soon as the rewards stop coming.
Good Housekeeping emphasizes the importance of raising children who appreciate learning or spending time with family for intrinsic reasons—not just for the latest gaming console. When we use consumer goods as incentives, we inadvertently send the message that material possessions are the ultimate prize, overshadowing the joy of learning or personal growth.
Study authors, Marsha L. Richins and Lan Nguyen Chaplin, warn that using material items to express affection or recognize achievements can have unintended consequences. Even well-meaning parents can cultivate materialism in their kids despite their efforts to steer them toward a more meaningful outlook on happiness, which doesn’t rely on stuff.
So, what’s the takeaway? As parents, we should focus on nurturing values that last a lifetime. Instead of bribing our little ones with toys, let’s find ways to foster their love of learning, discovery, and genuine human connection. If you’re curious about other parenting tips, check out this article on our sister site, Home Insemination Kit.
In conclusion, it’s best to steer clear of rewarding children with material gifts or money. Instead, aim to encourage intrinsic motivation by emphasizing the value of the experiences themselves. And for more information on home insemination, including helpful resources, visit the CDC.
Summary
It’s essential to approach parenting in a way that fosters intrinsic motivation in children rather than relying on material rewards. Studies show that material gifts can lead to materialistic values in adulthood. Instead, focus on encouraging a love of learning and meaningful experiences.