“Women become extraordinary with age.” Those words hit my ears one afternoon while I was juggling my third pregnancy, trying to soothe my second child, and keeping an eye on my eldest. I was taken aback—this wasn’t some trendy magazine quote or a moment from a talk show. My brother-in-law was actually watching a movie featuring a fabulous actress when he spoke those words, but they resonated with me. At 30, I certainly didn’t feel “extraordinary.” In fact, I felt like a chaotic whirlwind. Yet, reflecting on that statement, I’ve come to realize just how right he was. Now at 40, it’s clearer than ever that this transformation is about more than just looks; it’s about inner strength, growing confidence, and a deeper understanding of life.
I see it in the way my sisters and aunts carry themselves, how they communicate, and how they light up a room. There’s no room for nonsense in their lives anymore. They are more remarkable than ever. My high school buddy? At 40, she’s absolutely radiant. Even my neighbor, who I’ve known for over a decade, seems to glow more now than when we first met.
So, why do women become more extraordinary with age? From my perspective, here are a few reasons:
- We Know How to Treat Ourselves Right.
Gone are the days of waiting for someone else to make us happy. We now understand our preferences and needs. Want that specific bouquet of flowers? We buy them ourselves! Craving a pizza loaded with toppings that no one else likes? We order it anyway. Take charge? Absolutely! - We’ve Found Our Unique Style.
After years of trial and error, we’ve figured out what makes us feel fabulous. Sure, there might still be the occasional fashion faux pas (thanks, Facebook), but we learn quickly. Our style is now an extension of who we are. - We Speak Our Minds.
Those mind games we played in our youth? Not so fun anymore. We’ve grown comfortable expressing our true feelings and desires. If we want something, we ask for it. And if we don’t, it’s likely because we’re not that invested. - We Break the Norms.
Wearing silver and gold together? White jeans after Labor Day? Who cares! As we age, we realize that life is too short to adhere to arbitrary rules. We can embrace our individuality while still respecting others. - We Master the Art of Selective Listening.
When we were younger, the need for approval was overwhelming. Now, we can easily walk away from relationships that drain us. We’ve learned to value our joy and ignore negativity, understanding that what we nurture grows. - We’ve Stopped Over-Apologizing.
Women often say “sorry” for trivial things. “Sorry my house is messy.” “Sorry I can’t help out.” We’ve learned that not every situation requires an apology, especially when it comes to prioritizing our time and energy. - We Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff.
Taking things personally is a major time-waster. While feelings are valid, we recognize that most of what bothers us has little to do with us. Letting go of unnecessary emotional baggage brings freedom. - We Lift Each Other Up.
With age comes wisdom about the world, and we realize that empowering one another is more rewarding than tearing each other down. We’ve experienced both sides and know that kindness is the better path.
In essence, we become extraordinary with age because we’ve weathered storms, learned from our mistakes, and emerged stronger. This journey of challenges—whether in careers, relationships, or personal growth—enriches our lives. And honestly, nothing is more beautiful than that.
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Summary:
As women age, they often discover newfound confidence, style, and empowerment. They learn to prioritize their own happiness, express their desires clearly, and let go of unnecessary emotional burdens. This journey not only enriches their lives but also allows them to uplift others. Ultimately, age brings wisdom that enhances inner beauty.