Katy James, at 52, recently chatted with writer Zoe Brooks about her journey through motherhood, business triumphs, and the wisdom she’d impart to her younger self.
Your eldest is now 20. How have you coped with the empty nest?
It’s a bittersweet experience watching your kids grow and forge their own identities. While there’s a part of me that wishes I could keep them young and dependent forever, it’s incredibly rewarding to witness their unique personalities emerge. As parents, we can share and instill our values, but ultimately, they need to develop their own beliefs and convictions.
How has being a mother influenced you?
Out of all the roles I’ve embraced, raising my three children alongside my husband has been the most challenging and rewarding journey of my life.
How do you juggle everything?
Honestly, I often don’t! Finding balance has never been my strong suit. Life unfolds in seasons, and each season demands different priorities. For me, my faith and family come first, followed by my career. When those priorities get mixed up, it’s chaos. I just can’t function effectively.
With your impressive business success, what’s one major lesson you’ve learned?
Some have labeled me a control freak—I prefer to think of it as being passionate! But it took me until I was 40 to understand that saying “no” is enough. Sure, “no, thank you” sounds nicer, but sometimes just “no” is all I need to say. I can’t do it all, and that’s perfectly okay.
What advice would you give to women who feel overwhelmed on their path to success?
There will always be naysayers who claim you’re not smart or talented enough. Don’t let that negativity seep into your thoughts! People often want to categorize others, but I’m too unique to fit into any box. Many women might think that one setback means the end of their dreams. But remember, a goal without a strategy and timeline is just a wish. You need a solid plan to turn your dreams into reality.
Looking back, what wisdom would you share with your younger self?
It’s easier to dish out advice than to follow it—trust me, I’ve been there! Maybe I’d tell myself to slow down a bit. I know I don’t get enough sleep, but hey, I’ll catch up someday! My modeling career taught me countless lessons, especially about rejection. I learned not to take myself too seriously, though I take my work very seriously.
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In summary, Katy James reflects on her journey through motherhood and business, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance and the power of saying no. She encourages women to pursue their dreams without letting negativity hold them back, while also recognizing the value of balance in life.