Getting kids active can be a piece of cake when they’re little, but as they grow older, things can get tricky. Take the case of Laura Smith, who once enrolled her daughter in fun dance classes and martial arts. However, as homework piled up and screen time took over, Laura noticed her daughter becoming more anxious about exercising. “She kept saying she wasn’t good enough and didn’t feel comfortable moving in front of others,” Laura shared.
According to a recent study by the American Heart Association, feeling self-conscious is the top reason kids and teens shy away from exercise. Whether it’s because of weight issues or feelings of clumsiness, many kids find it hard to get moving. So, what can you do to help your child break through that barrier? Here are some expert-backed strategies:
1. Start Solo
Child psychologist Amy Johnson from Bozeman, Montana suggests beginning with activities that spark your child’s interest but don’t require interaction with peers. Think family hikes, gardening, or even following along to fitness videos on YouTube. Johnson emphasizes the importance of letting your child choose the activities, stating, “As they gain confidence and improve their health, they can gradually try group activities.”
2. Start Small
Consider enrolling your child in small group classes where the focus is on having fun rather than competition. In a cozy setting, they’ll receive more personal attention from the coach and have the chance to bond with a few peers.
3. Walk the Walk
Here’s a reality check: sometimes the best way to teach your kids self-acceptance is to model it yourself. Engage in activities where you might not excel, but show your kids that having fun is what matters. High school coach and psychologist Jake Collins shares that when he hears music at practice, he can’t resist dancing—awkwardly. “It sends a message that it’s okay to not be perfect,” he notes.
4. Look Beyond Exercise
The issues of self-consciousness often spill over into other areas of life. Collins suggests helping your child build confidence through activities that push their boundaries outside of sports. “Encourage them to enjoy activities for their own sake, rather than worrying about what others think,” he advises.
5. Enlist a Mentor
Having a slightly older mentor can provide invaluable support, suggests sports academy director Mike Thompson. “Often, kids don’t feel comfortable sharing everything with their parents,” he says. A mentor can relate to their struggles and reassure them that everyone starts somewhere. Keep an eye out for that inspiring older cousin or a local coach who can connect with your child on a deeper level.
6. Get Friends Involved
Transforming physical activity into a fun hangout with friends is a game-changer. Encourage your child to invite friends for outdoor games, tag, or a casual soccer match. The American Heart Association study highlights that kids see fewer barriers to exercising when they’re with friends. “Simply engaging friends might be the boost they need,” says pediatrician Sarah Lee.
7. Just Do It
Sometimes, taking the first step is the hardest part. Nature play program founder, Emily Green, advises integrating physical activity into daily routines rather than treating it as a big event. Simple actions like walking to school or the park can be effective. “Flow through these activities naturally—kids won’t question the motive, and it’ll help them build stamina without pressure,” Green adds.
In summary, helping your child overcome self-consciousness about exercise involves creating a supportive environment, encouraging small steps, and involving peers. Through patience and creativity, you can guide them to find joy in movement. For more insights, check out our other blog posts, including this one on intracervical insemination. If you’re interested in learning about home insemination, visit Make a Mom for expert tips. Also, don’t miss this excellent resource on fertility insurance for additional support.