When it comes to helping your child navigate the winding road of college applications, the line between support and overwhelm can be tricky to walk. Some parents might raise an eyebrow at any assistance at all. As Tara Jenkins pointed out in her book, “The College Journey: A Parent’s Guide,” there are those who would say, “This is your child’s experience, not yours.” But let’s face it—time is often in short supply, and figuring out which schools to apply to can feel like trying to solve a Rubik’s Cube in the dark.
Tara offers some helpful guidelines to keep the process running smoothly: “First off, don’t fill out the application for your child. Remember, it’s their journey! Avoid pressuring them to apply to your favorite school just because you had a blast there. And for the love of all things academic, don’t nudge them toward schools simply because they carry a prestigious name; your child’s choices don’t reflect your parenting skills. Also, resist the urge to dominate the conversation during campus tours and, please, don’t turn your child’s interview into a family affair.”
Oh, and if your child doesn’t get accepted? Spare everyone the drama and don’t call the school demanding answers. Just don’t.
As long as you steer clear of these no-nos, you have a green light to provide the support they need. Now, if you’re looking for more parenting insights while you’re on this journey, check out our other blog post on privacy policies here. And if you’re considering the world of home insemination, a reliable resource is Make a Mom, where you’ll find expert advice and products to assist you. For those who want to delve deeper into pregnancy resources, the CDC is an excellent place to start.
In summary, finding the right balance in helping your child with college applications can be a challenge. By avoiding over-involvement and following a few simple guidelines, you can be a supportive ally in their journey to higher education without stealing the spotlight.