Parenting Indulgence
Indulge Yourself (In Moderation)
She’s all smiles because if she lends a hand, she gets to enjoy some extra screen time. I score free help. It’s a win-win for everyone!
Last night, we tuned into a classic episode of Parks and Recreation, titled “Pawnee Rangers” from Season Four. In this episode, Tom and his friend Donna dedicate an entire day to treating themselves. Spoiler alert: there’s a true art to the concept of “treating yourself.”
As they gear up for their day of indulgence, Donna suggests inviting their colleague and friend, Ben, to join their adventure. She notes, “He really could use a break. He’s like a skinny little rubber band ready to snap.” And she’s right: folks who skip out on little joys often end up feeling drained and irritable.
Tom, however, has his reservations (and I can’t help but chuckle at his line), “There’s no way Ben can slow down enough to keep up with us.” Sure, Tom and Donna indulge in some extravagant purchases, giving each other the green light to go all out. But honestly, that might not be the best approach. Here’s a little secret for adulting: make sure that the things we do to lift our spirits don’t turn into regret.
As the episode progresses, it’s evident that “Indulge Yourself” day is really about enjoying quality time with a friend, engaging in their favorite activities. “It’s the best day of the year!” Donna joyfully declares. They cherish their shared experiences and traditions. I bet even Tom and Donna would agree that the memories they create together are far more valuable than their fancy leather goods or spa treatments.
I would love to organize an “Indulge Yourself” day with a friend, filled with all sorts of healthy delights packed into one fabulous day. And let’s be real—when it comes to maintaining good habits, the Strategy of Treats is a crucial tool in our habit-changing arsenal. When we treat ourselves better, we can also demand more from ourselves. For instance, after a fun perfume adventure with a pal, I find it much easier to stay committed to my gym routine.
When we feel deprived of treats, we start to rationalize unhealthy choices with thoughts like “I’ve earned this,” “I deserve this,” and “I need this.” These justifications often lead us off track, but when we regularly enjoy healthy treats, we don’t feel the need to excuse poor habits.
I delve into the delightful Strategy of Treats and the amusing Strategy of Loophole-Spotting in my latest book, Better Than Before, which explores the intricacies of habit formation. You can sign up here to learn more when it’s released. It’s packed with insights!
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In summary, taking time to indulge in moderate treats can significantly enhance our well-being and help maintain our good habits, all while enjoying life’s little pleasures with friends. So go ahead, plan your own treat day—you deserve it!