It feels like we’ve all hit our limit when it comes to critiquing each other’s choices as moms. It’s time to grab the hand of the woman next to you and shout, “Forget it!”
I’m not bothered if your little one shares your bed until they’re practically ancient or if they’ve never spent a moment by your side. Seriously, who cares? Whether you choose to nourish your child with baby formula, kombucha, or the classic breast milk, it’s none of my business. We each have our own lives to live, so why would I judge yours?
Let’s unite our voices, mothers! Together, let’s declare, “Forget it! We’re all women and mothers, and we’re doing the absolute best we can.”
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the trials of motherhood, know that I’m here for you. Bring your woes to me, and if you’re a wine drinker, I’ll pour you a glass. I won’t try to fix anything; I’ll just lend an ear and empathize because I’ve been there too.
Even though I think my child is the most incredible being to ever exist, I recognize that he might drive you just as crazy as your little one does for me. No hard feelings.
I refuse to let competition creep into my mind. I won’t compare my child to yours at every turn; our kids each have their unique paths, and that’s perfectly okay.
When I see you losing your cool in the grocery store, I’ll understand that you have every right to be frustrated. Whatever pushed you to that moment is just as valid as what brought me to my own breaking point. I’ll remember this and send you a supportive thumbs-up.
Your parenting choices are yours alone. I don’t know your child the way you do, and I never will. I’ll mind my own business because judging you would only reflect my own insecurities. I’ll keep this thought at the forefront of my mind.
I’m here to support mothers when they need it. We all face moments when we could use a helping hand, whether it’s a sympathetic ear, a meal, a grocery run, or even a good laugh. Whatever you need, I’ll do my best to provide it.
I’ll stand by your side, not against you. As fellow mothers, we share a unique understanding of the chaos and joy that comes with loving our children fiercely. Our hormones may drive us to chocolate, and our kids may not fully grasp our struggles, but we need to band together through it all.
Let’s ditch the petty arguments: working vs. stay-at-home, breastfeeding vs. bottle-feeding, organic vs. non-organic, and all the other divides. Let’s set those disagreements on fire and remember: we’re raising imperfect little humans, not fragile aliens that require flawless parenting.
These kids will grow up regardless of our hits and misses. If we embrace more understanding and compassion for one another, we might just impart that essential quality to them.
And then, the internet can return to its true purpose—viewing adorable cat pictures and poking fun at celebrities to lift our spirits.
Are you with me?
For more insights into motherhood and conception, check out our other blog post at Intracervical Insemination. If you’re on a fertility journey, Make a Mom is a fantastic resource. Plus, for stats on infertility, the CDC offers great information.
Summary
Motherhood can be challenging, and it’s time we stop judging each other’s choices. We should support one another and recognize that we’re all doing our best. Let’s celebrate our unique journeys and unite as mothers, leaving behind comparisons and criticisms. Together, we can create a more understanding parenting community.