Becoming a mother often feels like a rite of passage, a journey where you may feel like you’ve lost a piece of yourself along the way. However, unlike other rites of passage where wisdom is gained and readiness is acknowledged, motherhood often gifts you with diaper coupons, a complimentary can of formula (whether you need it or not), and heaps of unsolicited advice from folks who may not have changed a diaper in decades.
Sure, you might receive pamphlets highlighting local resources or advice on bonding with your little one, but what they fail to mention is that feeling completely lost is perfectly normal. The sleep deprivation might feel unbearable, but rest assured, it won’t last forever. And if you don’t experience an overwhelming wave of love for your newborn right away, don’t worry—it’s completely fine. If those feelings persist and you find yourself struggling, seeking help is always a wise choice.
In reality, no one told me that becoming a mother would mean losing a part of myself. Initially, the things that defined me might be put on hold, and even your partner will need to adjust their expectations too. This transformation is something that no one can adequately describe until you’re living it.
Some of these changes will be pure magic, like those late-night revelations that somehow make sense at 3 a.m. But let’s be honest: the job of motherhood can be the hardest gig you’ll ever have—no matter if you were a CEO or a chef before.
For me, the journey has been particularly challenging. I anticipated difficulty, but postpartum depression (which went unrecognized for 18 long months) made the struggle feel insurmountable. I lost myself in the whirlwind of motherhood and have spent nearly three years trying to rediscover who I am. The truth? The person I once was isn’t returning, and I’m finally learning to embrace this new reality.
When I started my blog, I wanted a name that acknowledged the chaotic, anxiety-ridden version of myself that emerged after childbirth—a version that felt foreign to both me and my husband, who bore the brunt of my exhaustion and frustration. This stranger has been a significant part of my journey, but as I move forward, it’s time to bid her farewell. I send her off with gratitude for the lessons learned, but I’m ready to embrace the changes that have come my way.
Farewell, dear stranger. Wishing you well on your journey.
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Summary:
Losing yourself during motherhood is a common experience, marked by challenges and transformations that redefine who you are. It’s essential to acknowledge the struggle while also embracing the changes that come with this new role. Seeking help is okay, and finding your new identity is a journey worth taking.