Let’s get real: I can’t stand playdates.
Sure, if you want my kids over for a “playdate,” I might consider it—just don’t expect me to return the favor. I realize that isn’t the norm these days, but hear me out…
When I was a kid—and likely when you were too—“playdate” wasn’t even in our vocabulary. If you wanted to hang out, you simply knocked on your friend’s door and asked if they could come out to play. Playing was spontaneous—no scheduling required! We’d jump into games of tag, ride our bikes, or even sneak a few stolen cigarettes (yikes!) without any need for adult supervision.
Now, the whole playdate thing feels like a result of over-parenting and over-scheduling. Kids today are loaded with homework (which has skyrocketed since my childhood) and countless extracurricular activities. So, of course, if they want to hang out, it has to fit into a meticulously planned calendar, and parents feel the need to orchestrate it all.
Honestly? I’m not a fan.
I yearn for the days when kids could just show up at each other’s houses and play without a fuss. Maybe a nice mom would hand out popsicles to the crew, but gourmet snacks and organized activities? Not a chance! And let’s be clear: Just because our kids are playing together doesn’t mean we have to be best buddies. Sure, I want to make sure you’re not a serial killer, but we don’t have to be pals if we’re not already.
And let’s face it—I’ve got my hands full with my seven kids! You probably won’t hear from me inviting your tribe over. I’m not into self-inflicted chaos. Even if the mood struck me to host a playdate, I’d probably forget about it between diaper changes for my little one, Scarlett! Plus, I definitely have my moments of yelling (sorry, kids!).
So, do us all a favor: Have your kids pop by and ask if mine can play outside. Just know that organized crafts and healthy snacks are off the table. If anything, your kids might come home with a new bad habit or, dare I say, a colorful new vocabulary!
While they’re playing outside, I’ll be inside enjoying a cocktail, grateful for the brief reprieve.
This article was originally published on Oct. 3, 2011.
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Summary:
In this piece, Jenna Larkwood reflects on her dislike for playdates, reminiscing about the carefree days of childhood when kids could spontaneously play without parental planning. She critiques the modern parenting trend of over-scheduling and emphasizes the importance of letting kids interact freely. Instead of organized play, she prefers a laid-back approach where kids can come over and play while she enjoys a moment of peace inside.