When future historians dig through our family albums, will they wonder where all the mothers went? As a collective of dedicated moms, we excel at capturing every milestone of our children’s lives—big and small. Just take a scroll through my Facebook timeline for evidence of that! Yet, even while we’re busy documenting our kids’ adventures, we often forget to include ourselves. As my friend Leah Johnson highlighted in her piece “Mom in the Frame”, many mothers are missing from their own family photos.
I frequently encounter moms who book sessions solely for their children, requesting that they stay out of the shot (don’t worry, I always persuade them otherwise). Some wait for months, hoping to shed those last few pounds before stepping in front of the camera. I’ve even been guilty of the same—if my husband looks like a movie star and my kids are picture-perfect, I still might scrap the photo if I think my arms look too big. But ever since reading Leah’s article, I’m making a concerted effort to get in the frame—whether it’s with my kids, my husband, or just by myself. Here are some tips I share with clients that I’m now applying myself:
- Shoot from Above: Instead of that awkward low-angle shot, have your photographer stand on a stool or a bench. This angle is not only flattering but also makes you look more powerful (not that we need any extra help with that!).
- Twist and Turn: Use that yoga practice to your advantage! Position your body at a 90-degree angle to the camera, turning your hips toward the lens while keeping your shoulders squared back. This simple trick creates a slimmer silhouette.
- Chin Down: Forget the college advice of lifting your chin. Instead, keep it down to create flattering contours. Lean slightly forward to dodge the dreaded double chin.
- Genuine Smiles Only: An authentic smile is the best accessory. Have someone tell you a joke, or just think about something that makes you laugh. If all else fails, try not smiling at all—it surprisingly works for many!
- Stand Tall: Good posture can instantly make you appear taller and more confident. Plus, it’s a lot cheaper than Botox!
- Utilize Natural Light: Turn off the flash and position your photographer in front of a window. This soft lighting is incredibly flattering and completely free.
- Choose Subtle Colors: A loud outfit won’t hide anything. Opt for muted colors like a cozy grey sweater paired with blue jeans, especially for black and white photos that can disguise imperfections.
- Rock Those Heels: Even if your feet won’t be in the shot, wearing high heels can improve your posture and give you that extra boost of confidence.
- Incorporate Your Kids: If being in the spotlight makes you anxious, let your kids take center stage! Sit on the ground and engage in a playful tickle fight—this creates action and diverts attention from any self-consciousness.
- Embrace Your Inner Diva: Think of those vintage family photos—who’s that stunning woman in the heels? That’s you! Be the fabulous mom you want your future great-grandkids to admire.
It’s high time we embrace the “selfie” and get in the picture!
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Summary: This article emphasizes the importance of mothers including themselves in family photos. It provides practical tips for taking flattering pictures, like using natural light, good posture, and involving children in the fun. By embracing the camera, moms can create lasting memories for their families.