Parenting and lawyering might seem worlds apart, but the two roles share some surprising similarities. Here’s how navigating the trials of parenthood can feel like practicing law.
1. The Screening Process
Ever interviewed potential babysitters? You probably asked about their experience and how they might handle a child who insists on only eating purple foods and reenacting musical numbers from their favorite cartoons. This is quite similar to the voir dire process for jurors—both involve sifting through candidates to avoid disasters rather than finding the “perfect” fit. I’m thankful for apps where sitters can upload their photos. It would be much easier if I could just disqualify jurors who post selfies while driving or flaunting a drink in their profile pics.
2. Interrogation Skills
A key trait of successful parents is their ability to extract information from tight-lipped kids. When you ask your child about their day at school and get a “nothing,” it’s time to pull out the big guns—leading questions that require a “yes” or “no.” “You had gym today, right? Did you forget your shoes?” This method is crucial for getting to the bottom of things, like determining who really broke the vase. You might not get a dramatic confession, but it’s worth a shot! Kids are masters at dodging questions, which can be more frustrating than dealing with any courtroom witness. And don’t forget about impeachment techniques—confronting them with their previous contradictory statements can be quite effective. “Didn’t you say you loved broccoli last week? Now you’re saying it’s disgusting?”
3. Making Objections
If you’ve ever found yourself in a debate with a three-year-old over why they can’t wear pajamas to the grocery store, you know the urge to shout “Objection!” is real. Many conversations with children consist of more objections than you’ll see in a courtroom. Common ones I use include:
- Hearsay: When they relay something another kid told them. “No way, Timmy said he can eat cookies for breakfast?”
- Relevance: If they argue they should get something just because “everyone else has it,” that’s easy to dismiss.
- Non-responsive: When you ask if they did their homework, and they talk about their favorite video game instead.
- Badgering: You know those endless “Can I? Can I?” questions? Yeah, that’s grounds for an objection!
4. Bargaining
Let’s face it—perfect parents don’t negotiate. But hey, life isn’t perfect, right? You probably negotiate when you promise an extra hour of screen time in exchange for a peaceful dinner. Or maybe you’ve promised a new toy if they bring home a stellar report card. Sometimes, compromise is key!
5. Consequences
When it comes to disciplining kids, parents often weigh the circumstances surrounding their behavior. Sure, that kid at the park was acting like a total jerk, but does that excuse pushing them? Seasoned parents recognize attempts at plea deals (like when a child tries to charm their way out of a punishment) and hold firm even when they’re met with tears.
6. The Appeal Process
Ah, the infamous appeal! This is when your child takes a disagreement to a “higher authority.” If you’ve denied them dessert, they’ll likely run to the other parent or a grandparent for a second opinion. It’s crucial to stand your ground and inform them that there’s no pathway to appeal parental decisions.
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In summary, parenting and lawyering have more in common than you might think. From interrogating little ones to making objections about their arguments, the skills are transferable. And while we might not have a formal education in law, we definitely learn on the job!