When my OB-GYN asked my partner and me if we intended to circumcise our future son, my gaze instantly shifted to my partner. After all, I’m not a guy and have no idea what that experience entails, so I felt it was his call. Being circumcised himself, he quickly replied with a confident, “Absolutely.” Great! One less thing to ponder.
Then, our son arrived.
When the pediatrician visited to check on him, we inquired about the timing for circumcision. He mentioned that since our son didn’t have an excessive foreskin, circumcising him could lead to issues as he matures and has erections. Thus, he advised against it.
Okay, my partner had many questions, but ultimately, we decided to trust the doctor’s guidance.
Once we brought our son home, people began to notice, and the avalanche of unsolicited questions and concerns started rolling in (which, let’s be honest, is really no one else’s business). Now that my little one is two and I’ve heard it all, I’d like to tackle the top four concerns people seem to have and explain why they really don’t matter.
1. Isn’t it bothering you that he won’t resemble his dad?
Well, for starters, my partner has dark hair, while our son’s is a lighter shade. My partner is broad-shouldered and built, while our son is as skinny as a twig. So, they already look quite different! In fact, many people say our son looks more like me. He has my nose! Why isn’t anyone asking, “Aren’t you concerned he doesn’t have his dad’s nose?” See how ridiculous that sounds? Let’s stop stressing about whether the guys in my family have the same body parts.
2. What about him not looking like the other boys?
Actually, I’d wager that at least half of the moms I know have sons who are also uncircumcised. Plus, our pediatrician mentioned that not circumcising baby boys is becoming more common, so by the time he hits high school, he’ll likely be in the majority. And honestly, who cares? No two penises look alike anyway. Why are we so fixated on male anatomy being identical?
3. It must be tougher for boys to keep an uncircumcised penis clean, right?
Are you really questioning my ability to teach my son proper hygiene? Seriously? Do we think boys are so clueless that they can’t clean themselves? If I can teach him to wash his hair, brush his teeth, and use deodorant, I think I can manage teaching him how to keep his private parts clean too. Thanks for your lack of confidence in both him and me.
4. What about his future wife? What if she’s not okay with it?
Firstly, I like to pretend my son will never engage in intimate activities. I mean, don’t all parents shudder at the thought? Secondly, when the time comes, I’m sure my son and his future partner will be so thrilled about their connection that his uncircumcised penis won’t even register on the radar.
In summary, my son’s anatomy is none of your concern, but since people insist on acting like it is, let me sum it up: He and his uncircumcised penis will be just fine, thank you very much. I’m not worried, and if you are, maybe it’s time to pick up a hobby or something to fill that extra space in your mind.
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Summary:
This article shares a humorous and candid look at the circumcision debate from a mother’s perspective. It addresses common concerns about uncircumcised boys, emphasizing that hygiene education is key, and that family resemblance isn’t everything. Ultimately, the author reassures readers that her son will be just fine, regardless of circumcision status.