I’m a proud mom of three boys, and no, I’m not on a quest for a girl. It’s not that I wouldn’t love to have a daughter; it’s simply that our family feels complete as it is. Having three kids in just over three years was quite the adventure, and honestly, I’m exhausted!
It baffles me how often people ask if we’re trying for a girl after they learn we have “only” boys, as if our family could never be whole without a daughter. When my partner, Jake, and I discussed starting a family, we never fixated on the idea of having a specific number of boys or girls. We primarily focused on how many children we believed would fit our lifestyle. At first, we thought we wanted four kids, but eventually, we realized that three was just right for us.
Accepting Our Family Dynamic
During my pregnancies with our second and third boys, there was never any talk of stopping if we had a girl or continuing if another boy came along. The thought of looking at a newborn and saying, “Oh great, another boy. Guess we’ll try again” felt completely wrong to me. I had to come to terms with the fact that I might not have a little girl, a notion I once assumed would be part of my journey. However, I’ve never felt disappointed in my boys. Sure, if I had a daughter too, I’d adore her, but I’ve never looked at my sons and wished they were anything other than who they are.
Done with Baby-Making
At this stage, I’m done with the baby-making phase. When people suggest we should “just try for a girl,” it honestly irritates me. It’s as if my family isn’t truly whole without a mix of genders. I can only imagine how pregnancy hormones would fuel my irritation if I were expecting again, especially when someone comments, “I hope this one’s a girl.” When I was pregnant with my youngest, I often wanted to retort, “Well, if it’s not, do you want him? I’m not having a third just to get a girl!”
Celebrating My Boys
I truly don’t feel like I’m missing out by having “just” boys. My sons are incredible – and a little wild at times! – but I wouldn’t trade them for anything. Being a boy mom is my jam, and I love every chaotic minute of it. My family is complete, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Resources for Family Planning
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Conclusion
In summary, my family of three boys is more than enough for me, and I cherish every moment with them. The idea that I need a girl to complete my family just doesn’t resonate with me.