Being a woman is no walk in the park. From dealing with hormonal roller coasters to the never-ending expectations about appearance, we juggle quite a lot. And just when you think it can’t get more complex, we dive into the roles of wives and mothers, adding even more layers to our daily lives.
Now, combine all that with the unique experience of being a lesbian mom, and things can get downright tricky. Here are five ways being a lesbian mother presents its own set of challenges:
1. Bug Duties
In heterosexual households, the man often takes on the role of the spider-slayer, but in a lesbian household, that duty is up for grabs. I’d willingly fold laundry for a week straight if my partner would just deal with the creepy-crawly in the shower. Thankfully, our daughter is now old enough to handle it herself—just grab a shoe and a paper towel, kiddo!
2. Who Do You Ask?
The phrase “go ask your mother” doesn’t really apply when both parents are moms. We find ourselves juggling questions on everything from schoolwork to emotional dilemmas. And while I’m more than equipped to tackle the subject of puberty, it does lead to some interesting conversations.
3. Mother’s Day Dilemmas
When Mother’s Day rolls around, it gets tricky. While everyone’s planning how to be spoiled by their partners and kids, my wife and I have to navigate our own celebration. We opt for a compromise: we take her mom out for brunch and spend the day having adventures so we can avoid any household chores.
4. Who’s the REAL Mom?
It’s disheartening that in this day and age, people still ask who the “real” mom is. Spoiler alert: we both are! Our daughter calls us both “Mom,” and that’s all that matters.
5. Synchronizing Cycles
Ever noticed how your friends’ cycles align when you spend a lot of time together? Now, imagine that dynamic with one other person—your partner—every single day. Let’s just say that sometimes, sharing a space with a fellow mom can lead to some tense moments, especially when chocolate is involved.
While being a lesbian mom has its challenges, it also comes with its own joys and rewards. Yes, some days are tougher than others—especially when spiders are involved—but it’s all part of the unique journey we’re on together.
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In summary, being a lesbian mother comes with its own unique set of challenges, from bug battles to navigating Mother’s Day. But despite the hurdles, the love and joy that come with parenting make it all worthwhile.