Let’s be real for a moment. You find yourself scrolling through your social media or reading an article, and suddenly, you encounter a viewpoint that you find utterly disagreeable. In fact, you disagree so strongly that you feel the urge to respond. You type and erase, type and erase, until your comment is polished and ready to go. But just to soften your stance, you tack on the phrase, “just sayin’” at the end.
Yikes.
Let me clarify something: adding “just sayin’” to your comment doesn’t make you sound casual or relatable; it makes you sound condescending and immature. It undermines any valid points you might have made. Even if your argument is well-structured and thought-provoking, that little phrase will overshadow it, leaving people with the impression that you’re being a jerk.
So, what’s the issue with “just sayin’”? The truth is, you aren’t merely stating an observation. What you’re doing is trying to deflect responsibility for your words. You know your comment may come off harsh, perhaps even antagonistic, but you add that phrase to imply it’s just your opinion, as if that absolves you of being offensive. You want to convey that you’re right and the person you’re responding to is out of line.
This trend of using “just sayin’” to excuse rudeness has become widespread, and frankly, it’s not charming at all.
Here are some strategies to help you move past “just sayin’”:
- Be Kind.
You’re capable of discerning between being mean and being constructive. Choose kindness. Nobody enjoys dealing with negativity, and mean-spirited people often find themselves isolated. If your comments are respectful, you won’t feel the need to add “just sayin’.” - Reflect Before You Post.
Ask yourself if it’s necessary to critique every single flaw in the other person’s argument. Can you focus on one key point instead? Is it essential to delve into their personal life, or can you maintain your focus on what they wrote? Remember, you likely don’t know them well beyond a few paragraphs. Stick to the facts. - Sometimes Silence is Golden.
Believe it or not, it’s okay to read something you disagree with and just move on. Take a moment to clean your living space, go for a jog, or reach out to a friend if you need to vent. There’s no obligation to broadcast your thoughts online; sometimes, it’s best to simply walk away.
Can we all agree to retire the phrase “just sayin’”? Let’s make it as obsolete as dinosaurs or outdated catalogs. If you feel the urge to use that phrase, it may be time to reconsider your comment. More often than not, if you’re compelled to say “just sayin’,” it’s better to hold your tongue.
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In summary, be thoughtful with your words, avoid unnecessary negativity, and consider the impact of what you say. It’s possible to express disagreement without being rude, and you’ll find that your communication becomes more effective.