There’s nothing quite as exhilarating as a powerful “You go, girl!” narrative. Witnessing a woman rise from nothing to create something extraordinary without worrying about her makeup (unless she chooses to) ignites my passion and encourages me to chase after my latest dreams.
So, when Netflix released the first season of Girlboss, inspired by Sophia Amoruso’s rise to fame with her fashion company, Nasty Gal, I was ready to binge. However, as I watched, I couldn’t help but question whether I was too old to draw inspiration from her story. While I found her journey motivating, I felt like cheering on a twenty-something made me, a thirty-something, seem uninspired.
Throughout the season, we see her journey from self-discovery to igniting her passion, facing countless rejections, and ultimately achieving her goals. She builds her brand from scratch, embodying a wild, determined spirit even in her moments of emotional turmoil. Her success is undeniably impressive.
As I watched, I thought, “I want that fierce energy! She doesn’t let anyone hold her back!” But then reality hit: she’s a single woman in her twenties, while I’m a 34-year-old married mother of two, with roots and responsibilities that go beyond my own desires. I can’t dedicate endless hours to my passions; I have kids to care for.
I admit I indulged in a bit of self-pity, feeling like my dreams were burdensome, and that my days of being a badass were over. I reminisced about my single days, when it felt like anything was possible, before my late nights of brainstorming new ideas were snuffed out. I took time to mourn that previous life.
But then clarity struck: I’m not too old at 34. I’m very much alive, and I can still set ambitious goals and pursue my dreams— I just need to recalibrate my expectations to fit my current lifestyle. Being a married mom doesn’t mean my aspirations are gone; they didn’t disappear when I had children. I still have the right to chase them with the same fervor I had in my twenties. In fact, it’s even more crucial to pursue my aspirations now, as my little ones look up to me, and I want to be their empowered role model.
Recently, my 3-year-old son expressed a desire to become the sun when he grows up. Like any supportive mom, I encouraged him, assuring him that he could achieve anything he sets his mind to. When he asked if I really believed he could be the sun, I replied with confidence, “You can be anything you want to be!” While he may not literally become the sun, I hope he understands the importance of dreaming big and working towards those dreams.
By pursuing my ambitions in my thirties, I’m teaching my children that age doesn’t determine capability. Just because I have kids doesn’t mean I have to abandon my dreams. It simply means I must approach them more thoughtfully, considering others in my planning and spending.
Additionally, I’m setting an example for my children, illustrating that anything is achievable at any stage of life. It requires hard work and an unshakeable belief in oneself, a belief that cannot be taken away by anyone.
Inspiration transcends age. It’s perfectly acceptable for me to find motivation in the antics of a vibrant twenty-something, just as it is for me to inspire younger generations in my thirties. The key is to persist, support one another, and turn our dreams into reality.
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In summary, navigating aspirations in your thirties can be fulfilling and impactful, both for you and your children. It’s about finding a balance and showing them that dreams are always worth pursuing.