I’m currently nine days post-partial hysterectomy. While my ovaries remain intact, my cervix, uterus, and Fallopian tubes have been removed. The sensation over these past days has been akin to feeling like all my internal organs were taken out, juggled like a soccer ball, and then stuffed back in with a dose of air sealed tight inside me.
For far too long, I focused on the struggles associated with my reproductive health—excessively long menstrual cycles, unpredictable bleeding, and debilitating cramps that rendered me immobile. My periods, which used to last about a week, began stretching to two weeks or longer. Despite being on birth control, I often found myself menstruating mid-pack. Exhausted and fed up with the inconvenience and pain, I knew I needed relief.
After discussing my options with my OB-GYN, who suggested a hysterectomy as a solution (given my completed family with two boys and a stepson), I decided it was time for this significant change.
I had researched laparoscopic hysterectomies extensively, learning that they typically involve less downtime, pain, and visible scarring. I even purchased a book to help me prepare for the surgery and promote healing, and I scoured online forums filled with testimonials from women celebrating their newfound “period-free bliss.”
Period-free? Count me in!
In anticipation of the surgery, I focused on maintaining a healthy lifestyle—eating well, exercising, and meditating to calm my nerves with affirmations of a safe and successful procedure. I indulged in bone broth, green smoothies, and kombucha, aiming to embody a state of tranquility despite an underlying fear.
However, no amount of preparation could have fully equipped me for the post-operative reality. My doctor had assured me that if all went well, I would be able to walk and urinate easily and could even go home the same day. He mentioned that some women bounce back quickly and don’t require pain medication. I was convinced I would be one of those fortunate women, but reality quickly proved otherwise.
The surgery itself was successful; I was able to walk and urinate. However, I spent the remainder of that day and the night in the hospital bed, feeling far from great.
If you find yourself on this journey, here are some crucial insights to help you prepare for what lies ahead:
- You may wake up from surgery shivering uncontrollably. Even if you’ve never run a marathon, it feels like you’ve completed an ultra-endurance race. In a haze, you’ll hear the staff mention a dose of Demerol for the shakes, and soon after, a calming warmth will wash over you, followed by compliments on the nurse’s beauty.
- You’ll discover an extraordinary amount of air within your body, akin to having enough to inflate all the balloons for a birthday party. This air is not just regular gas; it’s introduced during surgery to create space for the doctors to work. It’s sealed inside until your body absorbs it, and pain medication will be your friend in this scenario.
- Using the restroom may take an eternity, with various positions required for a successful outcome. I found it incredibly helpful to have my partner hold my feet up while I attempted to relieve myself.
- If you’re a coffee drinker, make sure to get some caffeine soon after surgery to prevent a caffeine withdrawal headache. I learned this the hard way when my headache escalated into a migraine.
- Expect discomfort for several days. It may feel as if something could fall out whenever you stand, but rest assured, that won’t happen.
- Eating could be painful as well. I experienced significant stomach cramps with anything beyond broth or smoothies. It may have been the medications, so I quickly adjusted my approach. On the bright side, I lost four pounds in a week—quite a feat for me!
- Let’s be candid about bowel movements. This was undoubtedly the most challenging aspect. I struggled to go and faced intense pain in the process. Despite taking stool softeners, my husband had to bring home various remedies, including fiber drinks, suppositories, and eventually an enema, to help me out. It turned into a mini-project for him, and I am forever grateful.
- You might notice some bloating that makes you look a bit pregnant. The combination of inflammation and not using your abdominal muscles can create a noticeable belly. Be prepared with some comfortable clothing.
- Lastly, having a support person is crucial. I was fortunate to have my partner by my side, who helped me with everything from getting off the couch to showering. His support was invaluable, and I cannot express enough gratitude for his kindness.
I removed parts of my body that had caused me pain and frustration for far too long, including the organs that helped bring my two boys into this world. The healing process is a miracle, reminding me of the resilience of the human body.
Now, nine days post-surgery, I finally feel like myself again. While I still experience some discomfort, I’m on the road to recovery. I looked in the mirror last night, taking in my small incisions and bloated belly, and I felt a sense of awe for what my body is capable of. It has endured a significant change and is working diligently to heal.
If you are considering this path, my main advice is to treat yourself with kindness. Every recovery is unique, so honor your journey and allow others to assist you as needed. Whether it’s bringing meals, running errands, or simply providing comfort, lean on your support system.
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In summary, undergoing a hysterectomy is a profound journey filled with challenges and revelations. While individual experiences may differ, preparing for the unexpected and allowing yourself grace during recovery can make all the difference.