Ah, the life of a server! A role where you smile through the chaos, all while your customers might push the limits of patience with their complaints and antics. I spent my college years in this fast-paced job, and while I eventually utilized my degree in sociology, I can confidently say that my waitressing experience taught me invaluable lessons about human behavior—especially as I stepped into the demanding role of motherhood.
Here are five key lessons I learned from waitressing that have surprisingly equipped me for parenting:
1. Know Who’s a Problematic Customer
As I stood by the entrance, I would size up my tables upon seating. With a friendly grin, I’d approach, only to be interrupted mid-greeting by requests that hinted at trouble. This was a daily occurrence. Just yesterday, my son, with his messy hair and oversized pajamas, walked up and immediately demanded, “I want chocolate milk in the blue cup with Lightning McQueen, not the one with footballs!” The parallels between managing rude customers and navigating my child’s demands are striking. The key? Don’t take it personally, maintain your composure, and model the respect you wish to receive.
2. Take Responsibility
There were moments in the restaurant when panic would set in, like when I realized I’d forgotten to place an order for a table that had been waiting for far too long. Initially, I’d blame the kitchen, thinking it would save me from embarrassment. But when my manager took the initiative to apologize on my behalf, I learned a hard truth: it’s better to own up to mistakes. Now, when I feel tempted to blame my kids for the chaos at home, I remind myself that sometimes, I’m the one who needs to step up and take responsibility.
3. It Can Always Get Messier
In my early days of serving, I dropped trays, spilled drinks, and faced unexpected “gifts” from customers. After my son was born, I quickly discovered the realities of spitting up and diaper blowouts. With my second son now gleefully flinging spaghetti, I’ve grown to accept that mess is part of the journey. Thanks to my waitressing background, I know not to sweat the small things—after all, it can always get grosser!
4. Mastering Complaints
From customers who claim their meal was “too spicy” to toddlers who reject dinner simply because it’s not what they envisioned, I’ve honed my patience. Serving taught me that complaints are often a part of life. When my son turns his nose up at the dinner I’ve prepared, I adopt the same approach I used with difficult patrons: smile, nod, and give myself space to appreciate the absurdity of it all.
5. Prioritize the Kids
In my waitressing days, I quickly learned that keeping kids happy was crucial for a good tip. I’d serve their drinks first, entertain them, and even embarrass myself if it meant ensuring their satisfaction. Now, with my own two boys, I see the truth in this mantra: happy kids lead to happy parents. If someone is good to my children, they instantly gain my favor.
As I continue to apply these skills from my waitressing days to the daily adventures of parenthood, I look forward to the day when my children can experience their own serving journeys. I’ll encourage them to apply at local restaurants, and I’ll chuckle at the stories they’ll bring home—like the time they had a massive table to serve right before closing or dealt with a particularly difficult customer.
Ultimately, they will learn the importance of treating others with respect and, of course, the value of tipping their server!
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In summary, my time as a waitress has been instrumental in shaping my approach to motherhood, teaching me to handle challenges with grace, humor, and a healthy dose of humility.
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