As my mom dished out dinner, my dad set down his fork and dropped the news my siblings and I had gotten used to hearing over the years. “I got a promotion! Guess where we’re moving? Texas! Exciting, right?” My younger siblings cheered, while my 11-year-old self just sighed and pushed my neglected peas around my plate. Another move meant a new school, new friends, and a new house—just when I had finally gotten used to where we were. That night, I buried my face in my pillow, tears flowing at the thought of moving trucks invading my space again.
By the time I reached college, my family had relocated eight times across the country. We rarely stayed in one place for more than three years as my dad climbed the corporate ladder. We were lucky he managed to keep his job through several company takeovers, but each time rumors of moving surfaced, we’d have another dinner table discussion about leaving our latest beloved town behind.
When I met my husband, I made it clear: if he wanted a life with me, we were staying put. I craved the stability of a home where my kids could grow up with a sense of permanence and where I could hide a box in the basement and reminisce about it 20 years later. We did make one move for his first job, but I finally got my wish—we’ve been rooted in our town for 17 years, the longest I’ve ever lived anywhere.
Now that I’m a parent, I’m starting to see the silver lining of my childhood relocations. While my kids benefit from the comfort of a familiar town and lifelong friends, I can’t help but wonder if my resistance to moving has deprived them of valuable experiences. Sure, moving was tough, but it also gifted me with unforgettable adventures that I cherish to this day.
If you’re considering uprooting your kids for a job opportunity, remember a few key points:
- Broaden Their Horizons
Growing up, most of our moves were on the East Coast and Mid-Atlantic. Relocating to Texas opened our eyes to a whole new culture. The food, music, and traditions were a delightful shock to our systems. I learned to love country music, and I still can’t find a decent taco unless I’m back in the Lone Star State. - Social Skills for Life
Being the new kid wasn’t always a walk in the park. But it forced me to step up my social game! On the days I was introduced to my new class, kids put their best foot forward. I quickly learned to break the ice with a smile and a friendly “Hi, I’m Emily!”—skills that still serve me well in new social settings. - A Network of Friends Nationwide
Thanks to my family’s many moves, I have friends scattered across major cities. Staying in touch has led to hilarious reunions during layovers and spontaneous meet-ups when traveling. It’s a blast to catch up with a childhood buddy while exploring a new city. - Exploration Is Key
Each time we moved, my parents made it a point to explore our new surroundings thoroughly. We visited state parks, historical sites, and local attractions every weekend. They instilled in me a love for adventure, one I hope to pass on to my children. From favorite dining spots at the Grand Canyon to trips to see the giant redwoods in California, those experiences have shaped my wanderlust.
While I adore our current home and wouldn’t trade it for anything, I sometimes feel the urge to move again so my kids can experience different perspectives. Then reality hits, and I remember the stress of packing up 17 years of memories. My mom truly was a hero for handling eight moves with us three kids in tow!
For now, I’ll settle for road trips, because living out of boxes and searching for the coffee pot is not my idea of fun. Trust me, I get it.
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In summary, while moving can seem daunting, it offers invaluable experiences that shape children into adaptable, socially skilled adults. The adventures and friendships formed along the way can enrich their lives in ways that last a lifetime.