Parenting older kids is no walk in the park. It’s a topic that’s often harder to discuss than to joke about. Sure, humor about the chaos of parenting is a popular way to cope with the ups and downs, but there’s a deeper emotional side that often gets overlooked. Let’s be real—nobody wants to admit that parenting can be a real struggle sometimes. Sure, we can laugh it off, but the truth is that there are days when it feels like a rollercoaster ride that we just can’t get off.
When our children are little, it’s relatively simple to make them happy. A little magic from mom, like a hug or some cookies, can turn their frowns upside down in moments. But when they hit those preteen and teenage years? Well, that magic seems to lose its potency. I mean, I can whip up a batch of hot chocolate and brownies to brighten their day, but I can’t solve the bigger problems they face.
As parents, our ultimate goal is to help our kids navigate the complexities of life. We’re told to resist the urge to hover over them and remove every little obstacle in their way. Yet, instinctively, we want to pave a smooth path for them. Can anyone else relate? It’s a tricky balance between wanting to protect them and letting them learn to stand on their own two feet.
The Emotional Struggles of Teenagers
One of the toughest parts of raising teens is watching them grapple with feelings and pressures that we can no longer fix. My daughter recently shared an essay she wrote about the struggles of being a teenager. Her words resonated more with me than I expected, filled with emotions that are raw and real. She talked about the immense pressure—from peer expectations to social media standards and everything in between. It’s a lot for anyone to handle.
She expressed her frustration with the media’s unrealistic portrayals of beauty and how schools often add to the pressure with academic performance demands. While I felt a pang reading her thoughts, I was relieved she opened up to me. It’s easier to read her feelings on paper than to hear them out loud, but it still stings knowing she feels that way.
Navigating the Challenges
Navigating this stage requires me to choose my words carefully. At this point, my advice can easily come off as out of touch. I wish I could wave a wand and make all that pressure disappear, but that’s not how it works. My role now is to help her cope, to equip her with the tools she needs to manage these challenges. Open communication is vital, but so is showing empathy and understanding. I can’t wave away her struggles—those are hers to bear.
Yes, the hot chocolate and brownies can provide a moment of comfort, but they are not a solution. Like many parents of teens, I want to support her in the best way possible. In an effort to reconnect with that magical mom side I once had, I’m diving into The Tao of Teenagers by Jamie Collins, which focuses on honesty and emotional expression. By putting her feelings into words, she’s taken the first step; now it’s my turn. I’m hoping to glean some wisdom from this book, but if anyone has tips in the meantime, I’m all ears.
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In summary, while parenting older kids can feel overwhelmingly tough, it’s all about striking a balance between supporting them emotionally and giving them the space to grow.