One day, when my oldest son was approaching his second birthday, he turned diaper changing into a wild circus act. Wriggling and giggling, he was half-naked and having a blast, while I was in a major rush. I tried everything: toys, my best “serious parent” voice, and even a silly dance. Nothing worked! In a moment of utter desperation, I gave him a light swat on the bottom. I felt awful immediately! I’ve always been against such methods, but I was just so tired and frustrated.
Once I calmed down, it hit me: I was punishing him for being a curious, playful toddler. Realizing we were late already, I switched gears and turned the diapering process into a goofy game. Miraculously, he joined in, and we made it out the door with him fully dressed.
It’s easy to forget that our little ones are, well, little. Many parents, especially those with their first child, have unrealistic expectations about their toddler’s behavior, according to a survey by Zero to Three. Kids aged 2 or 3 lack the self-control that doesn’t really kick in until they’re around 3 or 4. While they may look like they know what’s going on, they are just beginning to explore their world and their place in it.
Research from the University of Texas at Austin and New York University shows that when moms believe their kids understand the rules, they may resort to stricter discipline methods. In contrast, those who understand toddlers’ developmental limitations tend to adopt a gentler approach, which is often more effective in the long run.
So, let’s face it: kids under 3 are frequently unable to control their impulses. Acknowledging this reality allows us to respond with more compassion and use positive strategies to guide them. After all, punishing them for age-appropriate behavior is not only unfair but also unhelpful for teaching self-control. If you want to learn more about self-control in toddlers, check out this helpful page from Zero To Three.
Parenting toddlers can be a rollercoaster ride — they can be exhausting, wild, and sometimes downright hilarious. When we start viewing them as little learners instead of tiny terrors, those early years become a lot more enjoyable for everyone involved.
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Summary
Toddlers are still learning and developing, and expecting consistent behavior from them can lead to frustration for parents. Understanding their developmental stage and adopting a gentle teaching approach can create a more positive parenting experience.