Dropping your child off at college marks a significant milestone in their life—and a poignant moment for parents. It’s a day brimming with excitement, emotions, and a whirlwind of mixed feelings. To ensure the transition goes smoothly, preparation and adaptability are key. By this point, you should have gathered all necessary items (Target offers an excellent printable shopping list, and Bed Bath & Beyond features online lists tailored to various colleges) and had important discussions about roommates, safety, health, and even relationships.
Having helped two kids move into college dorms over 5,000 miles away, we’ve learned valuable lessons about what works and what doesn’t. Here’s a guide to make your move-in day a success.
The Dos
- Connect with the Roommate: Encourage your child to reach out to their roommate via email or social media. This is often when decisions are made about who will bring what, like a mini-fridge or TV. As a parent, it’s tempting to snoop on their social profiles, but try to keep your thoughts to yourself.
- Arrive Early: If possible, get there a day before move-in. This gives you time to pick up any held purchases, make last-minute buys, and familiarize yourself with the campus—all while your child is still willing to be seen with you.
- Rest Up: Get plenty of sleep the night before and fuel up with a hearty breakfast. Arriving tired can sour the day, and you want to make a great first impression on your child’s new roommate.
- Stay Organized: Have all move-in directions, schedules, and maps printed out. Familiarize yourself with these in advance to ensure a seamless process.
- Pack Snacks and Hydration: Bring healthy snacks and plenty of water. Save any celebratory drinks for later!
- Bring Cleaning Supplies: A roll of paper towels and disinfectant wipes can be a lifesaver to give the room a good clean before unpacking. You might also want tools and adhesive hooks for hanging things up.
- Exchange Contacts: Share emergency contact info with the roommate and their parents. Remember, this isn’t about monitoring your child but ensuring communication for emergencies.
- Include Family Photos: Pack small framed pictures to help personalize their space. They may say they don’t want them, but seeing others’ photos will likely make them wish they had some too!
- First Aid Kit: Include basic medications like Advil, Tylenol, and a thermometer. They will inevitably get sick, and you’ll want to stay informed about their health.
- Pack Comfort Items: Earplugs, headphones, and a sleep mask can help your child maintain some peace in their new environment.
The Don’ts
- Don’t Overpack: Let your child pack their own things so they know where everything is. Don’t get frustrated if they call asking where something is—one day those calls will be fewer and far between.
- Avoid Overstuffing Closets: Dorm space is limited, so don’t try to bring everything from home. Shipping is an option, but expect long lines at the campus post office.
- Let Them Take Charge: Resist the urge to take over the unpacking and decorating. This is their space, and they will likely want to arrange it their way.
- Keep the Door Open: While unpacking, keep the door propped open. You’d be surprised at how many neighbors will drop by, which can help break the ice.
- Stay Out of Conflicts: If any issues arise during move-in, let your child handle them. They’ll be living with their roommate, not you!
- Bring Tissues but Stay Strong: While it’s a big moment, keep it together. Celebrate the hard work that led to this day instead of dwelling on the emotions.
- Capture the Moments: Take plenty of photos and sneak in hugs whenever possible, just not in front of their new roommate!
- Don’t Skip Orientation: While it might feel tedious, orientation is a great opportunity for your child to meet others and learn more about the school.
- Send Care Packages: Surprise your child with little treats in their suitcase and consider sending a small care package a few weeks after they settle in. Something fun like poker chips or beauty products is usually a hit.
- Avoid Hovering: Check in with a text or call after you leave, but resist the urge to micromanage. They’ll figure things out on their own, even if it takes a bit of time.
As you embark on this new chapter, remember that while it’s a bittersweet experience, it’s also a time for celebration. Good luck!
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