Let’s face it: before I became a parent, the term “cockblocker” was totally foreign to me. It wasn’t until my first child arrived that I truly grasped its meaning—mostly because I never imagined attempting to be intimate with a baby’s shrieks echoing just a few feet away from my bed.
Then came marriage and parenthood, and suddenly, I was all too familiar with the term. That first attempt at sex post-baby was a monumental challenge; we were both yearning for a sliver of intimacy, only for my enthusiasm to be interrupted by a desperate shout of, “Can someone please quiet that baby?!” To which my partner humorously replied, “What a cockblocker this little one is!”
Fast forward to today, and it’s clear: the journey to rekindle that spark is fraught with interruptions. The scene of pleading for just a few uninterrupted moments of intimacy has become a recurring theme in our household for years. It’s safe to say I fully understand the struggles of parenting and the relentless interruptions that come with it—those little cockblockers are everywhere, and their timing could not be worse.
Just when you think you’ve finally settled the kids in for the night, eager to explore some adult time, there’s a chorus of “I need to use the bathroom!” or “Can I have a drink?” that throws everything off course. And just when you think you’ve got a few moments alone during the day, one of them will inevitably come in with a scraped knee or a broken toy.
At some point, couples with children must take charge of their intimate lives—figuratively and literally—and learn to tune out those interruptions. Remember, prioritizing your relationship doesn’t make you a bad parent; it shows that you understand the importance of a healthy sex life in marriage. If it means giving your kids a few minutes to fend for themselves, then so be it! They’ll survive, and your marriage will benefit immensely.
If you keep waiting for the perfect moment, trust me, you’ll find yourself in a nursing home reminiscing about days gone by when you could share some passionate moments without interruptions.
Here are a few rules to help keep your intimacy alive in a busy household:
- If the master bedroom door is locked, please don’t knock unless there’s a real emergency—like someone losing a tooth or a serious injury.
- Make sure the kids understand that when Mom and Dad need to “talk” in private, it’s important. Encourage them to find a quiet spot far away.
- When bedtime rolls around, “stay in your room” means just that. No sneaking out for water unless it’s a true emergency.
- And when they’re teenagers and finally wise to what’s happening behind closed doors? Just give them some cash for ice cream and send them out for a while!
While kids undeniably change the dynamics of your home, it doesn’t mean that intimacy should come to a halt. It just requires a little more creativity and the ability to filter out the noise and distractions. Don’t let the little ones steal your romantic moments away—fight back!
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Summary:
Navigating intimacy while raising children can be challenging due to constant interruptions. Establishing boundaries in your home is essential to maintain a healthy sex life. By prioritizing your relationship and creating rules, you can find moments for intimacy amidst the chaos of parenthood.