Dear Nathan,
I used to eagerly anticipate the return of the school year, marking off the days on the calendar until our routine would resume. As a working mom, I often felt guilty for not being able to spend those lazy summer afternoons with you at the pool. I wished away the long days, convinced that if you were in school like your friends, I was doing the right thing by you.
Sometimes, I worry that I sped through your childhood too quickly. And now, I find myself wanting to pause time. Just freeze this summer.
Remember how I cried on your first day of kindergarten? Watching you board that big yellow bus, ready to explore the world beyond our neighborhood, hit me harder than I expected. Your first soccer game was another poignant moment, feeling like a rite of passage. Even now, whenever the national anthem plays at your games, I find myself misty-eyed.
Time is fleeting. The reality of only two more first-day-of-school pictures hits me hard. Soon, you’ll be behind the wheel, and your lacrosse and soccer games are numbered.
You might not realize this, but social media is filled with emotional letters from parents to their high school seniors, echoing the “lasts” of their children’s high school experiences. Each story moves me to tears. And we both know how I feel about milestones.
I’m sure I’ll shed plenty of tears during your senior year, but we’re not there yet. This is your junior year, a critical time before the whirlwind of your final year begins. Here are a few things I hope you’ll consider as you transition into this important phase:
1. No Do-Overs
This year is significant. By senior year, it’ll be too late—college coaches will have made their decisions. So, put in the effort for your grades, sports, and SAT prep. Train hard on the lacrosse and soccer fields, in your classes, and with your tutor. There won’t be any chances to redo it. It’s crunch time.
2. Lead by Example
The younger kids are watching you now. As an upperclassman, your peers look up to you, and to your six little cousins, you’re their hero. Don’t let them down. You possess natural leadership qualities, so embrace them. Be kind, honest, humble, and strive to be your best self.
3. Prioritize Family
Right now, we might seem annoying, but we love you. Talk to Dad and me; we’re not as clueless as you might think. We’re here to support you. Remember to call your grandparents from time to time; they treasure those moments. And please, be good to your sister—she’s someone you’ll want by your side long after we’re gone.
4. Think Twice About Risks
You’re adventurous and feel invincible, but be cautious. One poor choice can alter your life’s path. Never drink and drive, and don’t ride with someone under the influence. Make wise decisions. And if you ever need a ride, just call me. And if you choose to be sexually active, please be safe; birth control is your responsibility as well.
5. Consider Future Careers
It may seem far off, but entering the workforce is closer than you think. You’ll spend a significant part of your life working. Do you envision yourself in an office? On a sports field? Out in nature? Hold onto your passions and think about how to transform them into a career. Use your talents to make a positive impact, and you’ll find fulfillment in your work.
6. Enjoy the Ride
Savor this second-to-last year of high school. The pressure is building, but it’s not overwhelming yet. Attend all the football games, hang out with friends, and indulge in plenty of pizza. The real world will be here soon enough.
Before long, you’ll be living independently. I hope I’ve been a good enough mother, providing a solid foundation for you to build your life upon. As you step into your junior year, your childhood is behind you. You’re on the brink of adulthood. My dear, you’re almost a man.
With all my love,
Mom
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