Since becoming a parent, my perspective on life has shifted dramatically. I’ve embraced new attitudes and made changes I never thought I would. My goal has always been to set a positive example for my children. I’ve worked on building my self-confidence, demonstrating that I value and care for myself, and showing them that I am dedicated to my responsibilities. I strive to instill in them a strong work ethic and the importance of resilience, while emphasizing that love and family are what truly matter.
However, I recently realized that I’ve overlooked a crucial aspect of life: embracing imperfection. Don’t get me wrong—I’m not perfect and I readily admit it. I have my share of insecurities, and I often feel like I’d win the “Most Improved” award rather than “Most Likely to Succeed.” My children, though, see me as capable of doing anything. They’re aware that their dad excels in certain areas, but they believe I can handle anything. I’ve come to understand that by fostering this perception, I might be doing them a disservice.
Just last week, our beloved nanny, who had been with us for four years, visited for a week. When she left, I noticed my 5-year-old son, Ethan, biting his lip and on the verge of tears. As I climbed into the backseat to comfort him, I was struck by the fact that he had never seen me cry before. It dawned on me that I had been so focused on being a role model that I had hidden my emotions. I told him, “It’s okay to cry. Mommy cries too.” He looked at me, a bit confused, but my smile reassured him that it was all right.
In my quest to be a strong example, I failed to show my kids the reality of life, including failure and imperfection. So, I’ve resolved to be more open about my experiences. I want them to see not only my successes but also the challenges I face, the mistakes I make, and the tears that sometimes flow. By doing so, I can teach them about regaining confidence, the true meaning of strength, and the importance of taking responsibility for our actions.
I want them to understand that it’s okay not to be perfect and that love and family remain constants through it all. My message to them is simple: I’m sorry for not showing my true self before. Let’s embrace this journey together and learn from each other.
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In summary, by revealing my flaws and the realities of life, I aim to teach my children that imperfection is a part of being human, and that love and family will always prevail.