When they placed her in my arms, bundled in soft pink, she was the embodiment of perfection. Born at full-term but weighing only five pounds, my daughter was small yet fierce. A survivor, she had overcome a serious car accident during my pregnancy. Each day following that incident, I fretted about the potential harm she could have sustained. But on that sunny September day when the doctors pronounced her healthy, I felt an immense wave of relief wash over me. I had come so close to losing her before she even arrived.
In the days following her birth, I observed her with wonder. Her flawless, pale skin was untouched by the worries of the world. Her minuscule fingernails, free from any polish, were so tiny that cutting them was a delicate task. Her dark hair framed her sleeping face in gentle wisps, and she seemed completely unaware of the beauty she possessed.
Every glance at my precious little girl filled me with the weight of what her future held. All of my experiences as a woman were waiting for her, and it felt almost unbearable. The thought of her encountering a mean girl for the first time nearly brought me to tears. When would she gaze into the mirror and wish she looked different? When would a boy steal her heart only to break it? While she slept peacefully, my mind raced with thoughts of her future—college, career, and perhaps even motherhood. The potential in that small bassinet was overwhelming.
As the years went by, I guided her through the typical challenges of childhood: mean girls on the playground, struggles in school, and sibling squabbles. I still remember the day she donned her new glasses and asked, “Will the other kids make fun of me?” With a bittersweet smile, I reassured her that she looked adorable. But deep down, I recognized that the journey toward self-doubt had already begun for her. In those moments, she was still a little girl, looking to me for guidance.
Recently, I’ve found myself gazing at her as I did when she was an infant. She’s transforming right before my eyes, and I’m struggling to keep up. Her once-small frame is becoming more defined, and, to be honest, hairier. Her moods swing like a pendulum, and she cries at the slightest sideways glance from me. All signs indicate that the dreaded monthly visitor is approaching. I can’t bring myself to accept that she’s growing up—again.
There are quiet moments when the urge to explain what’s coming in her life becomes almost unbearable. I’ve shared just enough information to prepare her for any surprises, but beyond that, I find myself holding back. I want to protect her and keep her sheltered from the harsh realities of life for just a little longer.
I want her to continue playing with her dolls and weaving intricate stories in her mind. I don’t want to burden her Harry Potter-obsessed imagination with the realities of adulthood, like childbirth and relationships. I wish for her to remain friends with boys without feeling self-conscious about what I might have explained. Watching her play, I see the same innocent spirit from that tiny pink bundle, but realize that this precious time is slipping away like sand through my fingers.
I’m not ready for my daughter to transition into womanhood. Not yet. Not so soon.
I know that soon my role as a mother will shift, requiring me to guide her into adulthood with grace. I’ll need to summon the courage to explain that a boy who doesn’t prioritize her happiness isn’t worth her time. I’ll have to discuss topics like tampons, yeast infections, and the discomfort of that time of the month. I’ll need to talk about self-protection and the legal choices available to her.
These are conversations meant for a young woman, not a little girl, and I’m not ready for either of us to have them.
For now, I will continue to marvel at this beautiful young lady next to me as she sends silly texts to her best friend. When I wrap her in a protective hug, if she asks why I’m holding her so tightly, I’ll simply say, “Because I know what’s coming.”
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In summary, as my daughter grows, I grapple with the tension of wanting to protect her innocence while knowing that life’s realities are inevitable. This bittersweet journey reflects the challenges and joys of motherhood, as I strive to support her through each stage of her life.