Dear Emma,
Yesterday, we chatted twice, each time for about thirty minutes. Both conversations wrapped up with you saying, “I love you.” Your once sideways half-hugs have blossomed into warm embraces, and I can’t tell you how much that outward affection fills my heart with joy.
Do you remember the turkey magnets you made with Grandma from those fake leaves and straw? Mine has proudly held its place on our fridge all year long, even missing a googly eye! But it still has its felt feet and that cute little ribbon bow tie. On the back, you wrote, “I like you.” That was a big step forward for us.
My love for you has always been unwavering, even in those tough moments—like when you refused to talk to me, scratched my face out of family photos, or slammed the door shouting, “You’re not my real mom.” We’ve had our struggles over schoolwork, and during the frantic nights when Dad and I worried about where you were, I still loved you deeply. Through every scream and tear, my desire for your happiness remained constant. Who could have predicted that your unexpected pregnancy would bring us closer together and fill your life with joy? It’s been such a delight to witness your growth as you and your partner embrace the journey of parenthood.
Our recent shopping trip for maternity clothes was the most enjoyable outing we’ve had together. There were no debates about whether something was too short, tight, or pricey. You were so appreciative and concerned about the costs.
You now reach out to me with questions about nursing, share your thoughts on doctor appointments, and express your anxieties about childbirth. Our conversations have evolved into something richer and more meaningful.
You’ve transformed so much since I first met you at age five—full of freckles, crooked teeth, and an attitude that masked your sadness. Your dad worked tirelessly to bring you to live with us, and your excitement was palpable when we arrived to pick you up with your grandma, ready to embark on that five-hour drive. Moving to a new city with your dad was thrilling, though you weren’t quite as enthusiastic about having a stepmom. I never imagined I’d take on that role either, but when I met your wonderful dad and you, his beautiful daughter, I knew we were meant to be a family. I envisioned enveloping you in love and making our home a place where you felt you belonged.
At our wedding, I wanted to create a special moment to symbolize the joining of our family. I searched for the perfect gift and presented you with a silver charm bracelet featuring three hearts—one for each of us. I promised to hold you close, through both the good times and the challenges.
We’ve navigated some rough waters together, and I think we can both acknowledge that we’ve emerged stronger and more appreciative of one another. I had a lot to learn; there’s no handbook for stepmoms. I followed my instincts, hoping that by sharing experiences I cherished with my own mother, we could grow closer. I gifted you my favorite childhood books, each inscribed with love from the first Christmas I knew you to the first birthday I celebrated with you.
You didn’t always want to cuddle or read together, and my silly songs didn’t always amuse you. Often, you preferred your dad’s bedtime routine. Despite that, I would tell you, just like my parents did, “Sleep tight, see you in the morning, love you, goodnight.” I kept hoping you would say it back.
On birthdays and holidays, I selected special charms for your bracelet that reflected where you were in life—a scooter, a soccer ball, a sandcastle. I organized birthday parties at Chuck E. Cheese’s, made that infamous SpongeBob Halloween costume, and cheered as you conquered the monkey bars. I took you on your first plane ride and helped you navigate the changes that come with growing up.
You’re so different from the girl I was—graceful and athletic with long, shiny hair, while I struggled with self-image and fitting in. You seemed to thrive in every sport, running across the field with a speed that left me breathless. Yet, even amid all your achievements, I often wondered why it felt like it wasn’t enough for you. You had a cozy room, tremendous friends, and a little brother who adored you.
As you prepare for this new chapter in your life, I want you to know that I’m here for you every step of the way. If you ever need guidance or support, remember that there are wonderful resources available, like this insightful article on IVF Babble which can offer valuable information about pregnancy and home insemination. Also, check out Make a Mom for expert advice on fertility and family planning. Lastly, you can always find helpful advice on privacy and support at Intracervical Insemination.
Emma, I am so proud of the person you have become and can’t wait to see the incredible mother you will be.
With all my love,
Your Stepmom
Summary
This heartfelt letter from a stepmom to her stepdaughter reflects on their journey together, highlighting the love and growth they’ve experienced. As Emma prepares for motherhood, her stepmom expresses pride and support, acknowledging the challenges they’ve faced and the strength of their bond.