My partner and I are parents to three wonderful kids, and with each pregnancy, I’ve found myself saying some pretty regrettable things. As I reflect on my past, I hope fellow soon-to-be dads can learn from my blunders.
1. “I Can’t Believe You’re So Tired.”
Seriously, Jake? What a ridiculous thing to say. Your wife is growing a human being! While you might just be tired from binge-watching your favorite shows, she’s dealing with a monumental task. If she tells you she’s exhausted, just nod and support her—it’s a big deal, and she deserves your understanding.
2. “Seeing Your Belly Makes Me a Bit Anxious.”
Sure, the prospect of having a child can be daunting, but guess what? Your wife is feeling the same way, and she has a lot more on her plate—hormonal changes, physical discomfort, and the anticipation of labor. Instead of voicing your fears, be her cheerleader. Embrace the journey together instead of letting your worries overshadow the joy of this moment.
3. “Why Are You Crying Again?”
It’s time to stop acting like her emotional state is an inconvenience. Pregnancy brings on a whirlwind of feelings, and while you may feel composed, she’s navigating a lot more than you are. Quit dismissing her emotions as ‘hormonal’ and instead offer a comforting hug or ask how you can help. Sometimes, she just needs a moment to breathe.
4. “Do We Really Have to Go Get Taco Bell at 9:30 PM?”
Remember that time you dashed out for your late-night craving? Well, it’s time to return the favor. If your pregnant wife is craving something, don’t complain; just get up and go! She’s the one carrying your child, after all.
5. “You’re So Hormonal Right Now!”
Wow, what a way to undermine her feelings. Yes, pregnancy can bring about some intense emotions. Instead of pointing it out, show her compassion. If she’s upset about something that seems trivial, remember it’s not about the issue itself—it’s about the stress she’s under. You’re a team, so react with kindness, not frustration.
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Summary
Reflecting on my past, I’ve realized that during my wife’s pregnancies, I often said things I regret. I learned that supporting her emotionally and understanding her needs are crucial. Embrace the journey together, and offer kindness instead of frustration.