We’ve all seen a child misbehaving in public. If the parent isn’t stepping in to address the issue, should you take it upon yourself to intervene? The short answer is: absolutely not. The longer answer? Definitely not!
Not everyone sees it this way, however. When Jamie Thompson, a broadcaster and mother of two, shared her experiences of correcting other people’s kids on the Australian program Morning Talk, it sparked quite a discussion online. Jamie recounted a moment in a theater when a child kept kicking her seat. After several attempts to convey her displeasure through “please stop” looks, she decided to speak to the mom. She asked, “Could you please manage your child? It’s becoming quite bothersome.” The mother responded, “Oh, he just gets bored in theaters.”
The show’s host, Lisa Johnson, chimed in with her own experiences, admitting that she has corrected children in the past when their parents didn’t act first. She shared a story about telling a child who was knocking shoes off a store rack, “I wouldn’t do that if I were you; the ladies will have to put them all back, and they’ll be upset.” The mother overheard and reportedly said, “How dare you speak to my child?”
While these situations can be exasperating, it’s important to remember that you never know what challenges a child might be facing. When you step in to discipline a child in front of their parents, you’re sending a clear message: “You’re not doing your job, so I have to.” You might be right, but what if you’re not? What if the parents are dealing with behavioral issues you’re unaware of? What if that mom or dad is already at their wit’s end, and you’re swooping in with unsolicited advice, acting as if it’s obvious that knocking shoes off a rack is unacceptable?
As parents, we should extend a bit more grace to one another. Sure, there are some parents who seem oblivious to their children’s misbehavior. However, rushing to correct a child assumes that these clueless parents are the norm. You might be convinced you’re witnessing bad parenting, but the reality could be quite different.
By attempting to discipline another person’s child, you play a risky game. There’s a chance they could appreciate your help, but how often do you actually want a stranger to discipline your own child? I’d wager that’s not very common. So, don’t be surprised if someone reacts negatively when you offer your parenting advice without being asked.
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Summary
In essence, it’s best to refrain from disciplining other people’s children. Misunderstandings can arise, and parents often have their own methods for handling their kids’ behavior. It’s vital to respect their parenting choices and offer support without overstepping boundaries.